Not Developing, These Are 5 Causes Children Don't Want To Listen To Parents

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JAKARTA - Have you ever felt your child is not obedient or don't want to listen to your parents?gency Lee,LCW, a parenting writer and editor in Parenting and Working Mother magazine says that one of the reasons children don't want to obey is because parents give instructions in an inappropriate way. In the end, instead of moving to comply with what you say, they will ignore all your words.

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Saying short things and sticking to one or two points is the best policy in communicating with children. Telling children the things they need to remember can make it difficult for them to remember and track everything they have to do.

It is the same with the use of many harsh words. Or explain something at length, such as the reason you punish him for making mistakes, for example, it will only weaken the message you want to convey.

For this reason, convey things as short and specific may be very important, especially for young children, who tend to have a short range of attention.

Often, children concentrate too much on something they do, whether it's watching favorite movies or playing with their favorite toys. So they don't listen to your words. Kids, like adults, can be very fun with something. So, when they don't listen doesn't mean they're disobeying. But because children are drowning in the things they do

Try to see the positive side of this, as they think they are building their concentration skills. And ask for full attention to the child by approaching and talking to him directly.

Give the child time to transition from the activities he does to the activities you ask him to do.

It's very difficult not to be tempted to raise the volume of sound when your child doesn't want to listen. However, screaming won't produce anything positive, instead children will learn to ignore you. Shouting is as dangerous as hitting because it can damage your relationship with your child, which makes him even more unwilling to listen to you.

If you repeatedly ask your child to take his toys and you don't follow up on them with consequences when they ignore your orders. Then you're teaching him to ignore you.

You may feel sorry for the face of the disaster when it comes to consequences. However, giving logical consequences can make them practice making better choices in the future. This will make children begin to learn to understand what you mean from your words.

When you stress because your child doesn't want to hear, parents usually make it easier to emit threats. However, if you always repeat giving them an empty threat, children will learn that it doesn't matter if they don't obey you, however, you won't do anything serious.

Not only that, but parents also often make excessive threats and sound inviting. Totaling reminds that the threat may sound more like a gift, not a punishment for children.

Those are five reasons why children do not want to listen to parents summarized from the Very Well Family page, Monday, October 30. Be patient and find out the reason why children are reluctant to listen to parents can be a way to improve children's attitudes that parents don't want.