Self-Sabotage Or Self-Sabotage Behavior, Turns Out To Damage Healthy Relations

Illustration of self-sabotage behavior that damages healthy relations (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Self-sabotage behavior or self-travage can cause problems in everyday life. This behavior includes delays, forms of self-injury, perfectionist, bad eating habits, even getting drunk and playing gambling. People are not always aware that they are sabotaging themselves. This behavior, not only harms themselves but also damages healthy relationships. According to clinical psychologist and psychiatric professor at the University of Nevada Las Vegas, Courtney Warren, Ph.D., ABPP., here are self-sabotage behaviors that damage relationships and need to be changed.

If someone avoids being close to their partner for fear of being hurt, it is impossible to build an intimate relationship with their partner. By being emotionally unavailable, it will keep your new partner apart even though it is close. It also makes you and your partner unable to really connect and bound.

Threatening to go creates stability and insecurity. In general, threats made during intense conflict can make couples feel insecure physically. If done regularly without a conflict-solving strategy, this threat will not help.

When a person shows his frustration through body language or nonverbal words but avoids discussing them, it's called passive-aggressive communication. For example, you say it's fine even if you're angry, sad, or upset. This kind of behavior can sabotage relationships and make conflict difficult to solve.

Underestimating a partner is a problem that creates unbalanced dynamics. Whether it's superior, judgeing, or often causing debate with a partner. This assumes that couples are of lower value, wrong, not important, and do not respect their partners.

Sometimes the most cruel way that damages a healthy relationship is to cut off contact or not respond to a partner's communication efforts. This self-takap behavior, hindering or refusing to engage with a partner, makes resolving conflicts and understanding with each other very difficult.

Warren is clearly reported by Psychology Today, Friday, January 5, we all carry the burden of past relationships and experiences into new romantic relationships. Often the tendency to threaten to leave, to communicate passively-aggressively, to underestimate your partner, or break contact quietly builds an emotional wall.

If you are aware of self-sabotage behavior that damages healthy relationships as described above, Warren advises, stop for a moment. Pay attention to thoughts, feelings, and ways to act before doing anything. Avoid acting impulsively and finding out what's driving you to do. There may be fear, unsafe, or hard to trust your new partner?