Although Commonly Experienced, Recognize 8 Things That Trigger Boredom In Relationships

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JAKARTA – For couples who have been committed for a long time, boredom is a challenge. Not a complaint, but how to get past it is an important thing to do.

Without giving up and resigning yourself to a bland relationship, recognizing the triggers can help you find freshness and newness. Here are things that can trigger boredom in relationships.

1. Communication is limited to the surface

Communication habits apparently affect the freshness in the relationship, according to Dr. Marisa T. Cohen, a relationship expert at Paired app. Couples may often talk about the seasons, what's trending, what they do all day, but don't talk about anything in depth. Surface chatter keeps the couple disconnected and even creates boredom.

Cohen advises, asking open-ended questions as a way to open a deeper conversation. Although it doesn't have to be a philosophical conversation, it's important to have an in-depth conversation so that the connection is strong.

2. Postponing personal goals

One's goal is not only to have a partner. And working on important personal goals makes a person feel more active and influences relationships. Josh Klapow, a clinical psychologist, says if you don't force the kind of life you want, you'll get bored.

Illustration of boredom in a relationship (iStockphoto)

3. You and your partner don't have hobbies

Activities that involve you and your partner as individuals, can trigger boredom in the relationship. That's why it's important to have a hobby, because it can help relieve boredom by doing other things that are not related to romance.

4. Stop seeking freshness in relationships

Freshness in a love relationship needs to be cultivated unceasingly. If you stop trying to achieve it thinking that the relationship will naturally continue in a positive direction, this will not work miracles. Relationship counselors at the Baltimore Theraphy Center advise working hard and making consistent feedback for relationships to thrive.

5. Doing things together

You and your partner love each other, but are you doing everything together? Turns out this is not a good thing for the relationship. The reason is, when you spend most of your time with your partner, it's easy for boredom to grow. So try to take the time to do it individually so that each will appreciate the time together.

6. Always go to the same place

Trying to visit a new place is important. According to Samantha Daniels, dating expert and founder of Samantha's Table Matchmaking, this is useful for bonding you and your partner. Couples can be intellectually curious and open up opportunities to talk about more topics.

7. Never argue

Different thoughts are natural, you know. Even if they argue, healthy partners have a way of exchanging arguments. While silence and acceptance will not make you and your partner know each other more deeply. Not even arguing makes the relationship feel flat and colorless.

8. Don't tease each other

Keep flirting or flirting is important to do. Because according to personal development expert Julie Pham, this can be a way to have fun, flirt, and pamper each other.

Those are 8 triggers for a boring relationship. Recognize if you have experienced it and change these habits so that the relationship is more refreshing and always feels new.