Sexual Desire Rate With Unsynchronous Couples, Follow Expert Tips To Overcome

Illustration of tips on overcoming sexual desire with an unsynchronous partner (Freepik/wavebreakmedia_micro)

YOGYAKARTA Most couples experience ups and downs in sex. Of course this is not a big deal unless a partner doesn't find a way to revive intimacy. Worse yet, when the sexual desire rate of a partner is out of sync and triggers problems to develop more. Therefore, it is important to consider input from psychotherapists and authors of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide To Pleasuring Your Partner, Dr. Ian Kerner.

The level of sexual desire and desire that is different is one of the most common problems that Doctor Kerner encounters. Can be driven by many factors, such as the many demands of life. To stay in harmony often the solution that couples take is to have sex spontaneously or not on an agenda before.

Demands for changes in the life cycle make it more difficult for couples to allocate time and energy to be sexually connected. Many couples will fall into sexual habits, change in sex frequency, and feel there is no need to fix habits in sex. It is important to understand, many men have spontaneous sexual desire. They can think about sex when they see something sexy, sexy sound, and others that create the desire to truly have sex. So for many men, desire is something that happens spontaneously.

Unlike women, who want sex to grow in response to something that came before. "Something that came earlier," said Kerner as quoted by Fatherly, Wednesday, August 2, appearing as a feeling of subjective passion.

To synchronize the level of sexual desire of a partner, Kerner recommends many exercises. For men, it is important to use a spontaneous desire to ignite proactive responses from their female couples. By stimulating and responding to each other, the desire can function synchronously.

Second, take 20 minutes to come together without a smart gadget or laptop distraction. Couples need to speak openly to each other to reinforce intimacy. It can also be to talk about sexual fantasies or talk during sex. In principle, every couple need to be open to what is needed, what is liked, what is satisfying, and what is fun. Even what is disliked regarding sexual relations also needs to be known to each other.

There are many couples who are attracted to each other but are trapped in poor or mediocre sex patterns. However, when your partner chooses each other, they need to think through 'what's sexually interesting about you or your partner', so that everyone has a much higher chance of synchronizing sexual desire and reinforcing intimacy between you and you.