Judging By 7 Changes In The Parenting Style Of The Social Media Era, The Phenomenon Of Comparing Children Is Increasing

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JAKARTA - Social media has changed the way to communicate, get news, and share life with others. In a new world where social media provides unlimited access, this also turns out to affect the parenting style. So, what are also affected?

Apryl Duncan, an experienced housewife and writer, shared his thoughts as reported by VOI from the Very Well Family page, Friday, July 19.

Social media has created a break in the brain. In moments of parenting, when your little one displays his echoed behavior, many parents unknowingly take a break to decide whether this moment is worth uploading on social media or not. Instead of responding instantly to your child's behavior, you must immediately pick up your smartphone and capture some photos of your little one.

In a short pause when parents reach for their cellphones to upload videos or photos on social media, unknowingly they have lost their natural and important moments in the interaction of parents and children.

When you already have children, you can no longer be dismissed if on the social media homepage you will mill about uploads where other parents are proud of their children. Thanks to social media, you will be flooded with information about the growth and development of people's children.

Many parents report that they compare their success in raising children with others on social media. They may experience feelings of failure based on what they see online, and the mentality of "other people doing better than me" creates unnecessary stress. Remember, when you look at social media, most parents don't share all the events that happen in their lives. So no one really knows about someone's life but that person himself.

Social media has changed parents sharing too much information. National Polls on Children's Health from the University of Michigan CS Mott Children's Hospital found that 75 percent of parents think other parents share too much. They say "share" ranges from inappropriate photos to too many details that can reveal the location of children.

Playing social media can take more time. Even though you can spend this valuable time with your family or me time restoring your energy. Consider asking your children if they think you are a parent whose attention is easily disturbed or not.

Realizing that you spend too much time on social media doesn't mean you have to completely release social media. Make sure you set boundaries so that everyone has free time from their cellphones and just enjoys each other's togetherness.

Sharing too many posts can cause you to show off too much or make your child proud. Of course, when your child excels, it's not only you who wants to tighten it but also you hope that other people know the child's ability.

Social media is just one of many ways parents intentionally or not violate their child's privacy. Even though you feel safe because you have privacy settings in your account and can delete images at any time, social media still stores digital traces. Social media uploads can be saved, shared, and distributed even if you don't want them and without your knowledge.

It seems that there is an unofficial competition on social media to become the youngest, most humorous, and most amazing parent. And this can cause fathers and mothers to measure their success in raising children based on the number of thiefs', favorites, and re-tweets of others.