7 Ways To Increase Self-confidence As A New Mother

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JAKARTA - Being a mother, especially a new mother, is a challenge in itself. Therefore, it is natural for a new mother to feel insecure about her ability to care for children. It should be noted that being a new mother is the same as opening the door to learning about a new life, especially parenting.

At the beginning of being a mother, there are times when this moment will make you confused about how to breastfeed, regulate sleep schedules, or any activity simultaneously. But you don't need to be discouraged, because some ways continue to build competence and self-confidence along with the child's growth and development.

Here are some tips to increase self-confidence for new mothers to try, as quoted by Very Well Family, Monday, July 15.

Increase knowledge about babies

Learning how to be a parent takes time and takes time to learn. It's ideal to start collecting information before pregnancy, but even though you already have a baby, it's not too late to find the right source of information to expand your knowledge.

Talk To Experts

In order to get the best quality advice related to parenting, you should have direct chats with qualified professionals who can answer your questions. Pediatricians, for example, can provide a lot of individual assistance. They not only measure the baby's height and weight; they are trained in various aspects of health and baby care. So take advantage of your time during the examination by expressing your worries.

Self-talk Positive

Don't be underestimated, the way you talk to yourself has a big influence on confidence. Instead of blaming yourself for feeling like a failure, remind yourself that you are in the process and learning. You can tell yourself, "I'm still learning, over time my child's parenting skills will get better. I believe, I can."

Build A Fellow Mother Community

Find a group of mothers at the same stage of life and you will find a treasure in the form of collaboration, comfort, and (sometimes) sympathy. On the one hand, friendship improves mental health in general, which of course helps during this difficult transition. In addition, gathering with people who have equal opinion can provide space to discuss your specific challenges or convey new ideas from those who have experienced them as well.

Selective In Receiving Other People's Advice

When you are raising a newborn, not a few other people's advice will make you even more confused. You have to be selective and don't apply all other people's advice to your child because you feel reluctant or uncomfortable. Only you as a parent understand the current state and needs of the baby, not someone else.

Follow Something You Control

Even though having a baby makes you confused, there are likely many other things that still make you feel confident in doing it. Doing this will not only increase the enjoyment of life after giving birth, but will also remind you that you are a competent adult with many useful skills. This increased self-confidence may also be carried away in your parenting.

Looking For Information About Child Care

Take steps to increase knowledge of raising children from pregnancy, either from books, videos, or professional advice. You can record and apply it to children when they are born, but remember that all children are treated differently. So, not necessarily the knowledge you absorb from other sources is suitable to apply to your child as well. It is important to adjust parenting patterns to your own child, that way you can understand your child's needs.