JAKARTA - You may often be confused about disciplining the prejuvene. The strategy you used earlier was unsuccessful. Amy Morin, LCSW, psychotherapist from Northeastern University, Boston, Massachusetts, as reported byParenting.id, said, "When children become preteens, they have gone beyond some well-working disciplinary strategies when they were young." That is, you need to find new strategies to discipline them.
Amy said that children will have a shift in behavior when entering pre-rejuvenation. According to Amy, the attitude of knowing everything or pretending to know is generally starting to appear in your child. "Many teens think they are able to do everything on their own," she said. "So don't be surprised if when you remind him to do homework or sleep at night, he will say, "Yes, I know!"
Prejuvent children are starting to get proficient in finding loopholes to the rules you make. For example, if you say, 'After dinner, we can't watch TV anymore,' he could try to postpone dinner for as long as possible, so he can watch TV longer. Not infrequently, he begins to argue from the rules you make.
Well, to deal with them, the main principle is that you can no longer think of them as children. Prejuvenes feel they are mature and can make their own decisions. Therefore, to discipline them, you need a new approach that makes them feel they also have an important position to take part in making decisions, namely:
1. Explain your previous hopes
Many behavioral problems can be prevented by explaining your expectations in advance. So, before your child goes to the mall with a friend, explain your previous rules. Explain what you want to see from him and what you expect to do, if he faces a problem. For example, For the sake of security, I hope at 8 o'clock in the evening you are already at home.
2. Convey Your Reasons
Tell your child about the reasons that underlie your rules. Make sure your child knows why you make rules. Prejuveled children could think, 'I have to sleep because of the mother's orders.' Instead, give him an understanding, that he needs to sleep because it's good for his brain and body. When he understands the reasons behind your rules, he will be more likely to make a good choice at any time.
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3. Give Freedom
Give your child a little freedom. Avoid being too protective. Give them the opportunity to make decisions and solve problems independently. Giving your child a choice will make them respected.
4. Avoid MOVING
Remind your child about regulations if he has made mistakes without scolding, because this only makes them lazy to hear and potentially argue. So, look for ways to discuss the consequences of what they have done and take advantage of as a moment to teach them what is good to do.
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