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Illustration of parents' obstacles in carrying out their role in accompanying children (Freepik/tonodiaz)

YOGYAKARTA As parents, there are many challenges. Starting from parenting styles that people closest to you feel are inappropriate until the task accumulates makes parents not enjoy their roles. The following is the explanation of sociology professor Calvina Ellerbe Ph.D. which makes parents not enjoy their role in accompanying their children.

Starting when a mother is pregnant, there is a lot of input from people around her. Starting from sleeping to skincare that is safe for pregnancy. The amount of information, from people who are conveyed directly to easy accessing information through devices, turns out to make parents uncomfortable carrying out their roles.

Push and drag is constantly never over. Even from being pregnant to going to college for children, many parties interfere too much in choosing which option is the best and realistic. Although on the one hand it is important to get consideration so that nothing is missed. But being in the ocean of recommendations requires a struggle in selecting which one is in line with the value held.

Every generation views the current generation as skeptical and concerned. Citing Ellerbe's explanation reported by Psychology Today, Tuesday, March 19, relying too much on past information needs to filter out which one is relevant and not. If you as a parent rely on parenting information from your parents, it is important to select ideas that are still actual. Otherwise, this can keep you from enjoying the role of parents who accompany their children until they are independent.

Too much information makes you tired, but lack of social support also often feels quiet. Research in 2020 found an increase in feelings of isolation and loneliness among parents. Some of the reasons behind the emergence of these feelings include the lack of community participation around, a very busy personal schedule that does not allow for meaningful social relationships, and a more individual perspective. This factor makes parents feel tired and alone.

The broken saying 'becoming a parent' is not accompanied by a manual'. Because there are no clues, often the reasons are not ready or not to prepare to become a parent carefully. However, giving up before starting isn't a fun path when playing the role of parents?

The obstacles experienced by parents when accompanying the baby above, there are ways to overcome them. First, Ellerbe's advice, it is important to clarify the goals and values of your care. If you are sure of your position, it will not be easy to get caught up in the voices of the majority of the people who direct it so it is tiring.

Second advice, focus on your child and the culture they grow up in. Next, ask for help and seek social support, covering physically and emotionally. In addition to educating children, it is also important for parents to educate themselves. Understanding children is one of the keys. Other keys, include openness to learning, accepting the uniqueness of each child, and fostering relationships that are written in a supportive community.