How Limited Does It Need To Be Open About Sexual Experience In Couples? Recognize The Limits

Ilstras is limited to what it is necessary to open up about past sexual experiences in couples (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA In a romantic relationship, openness is indeed important. However, regarding the sexual experience, there needs to be a limit to how far you and your partner can tell each other about the past. Although openness can improve the harmony of the relationship between pairs, not all of them can be told to loved ones.

The curiosity about your partner's sexual experiences, both currently and in his past, is commonplace. However, although past experiences related to your partner's sexuality may be relevant to your current relationship, there is also something you don't need to know about.

Launching Aaron Ben-Zeef's review, Ph.D. reported by Psychology Today, Monday, October 30, you should not tell your partner about everything, especially at the beginning of the relationship. Cox suggested, there are the following things that should not be conveyed to your partner, namely:

The above limit, the goal is to avoid comparisons that interfere with relationships with today's partners. Certain information is important about sexual experience. Because openness can increase intimacy. Many counselors suggest expressing useful information. As with regard to increasing knowledge, strengthening trust, communicating sincerely, and avoiding repetition of past mistakes. This important information also includes sexually transmitted diseases.

According to Ben-Zeef, there are no exact rules for what is allowed and should not be informed to your partner about past sexual experiences. In general, a person in a partner does not need to express problems and share detailed experiences because it can worsen the situation of a relationship.

Most importantly, open and sincere discussions are very important. You just need to tell me if your partner asks or asks back 'Are you going to be fine if I answer my story about past sexual experiences?' If your partner receives, then just give a little information without a detailed story. Get to know how the response is, if the response is bad, then confirm that you and your partner have agreed to work together to commit.

Ben-Zeef's message, outlines past experiences related to sexual life, should not compare or assess current partners. But telling the past, it is important to create positive learning that improves relationships.