Parents Need To Know, Here Are 8 Steps To Face Perfexionist Children

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JAKARTA - It's very good for the child to have high expectations for himself. But if he expects things to go perfectly, the result will never be satisfied with his own performance.

Perfectionist sets unrealistic goals for oneself. Then, he will put great pressure on himself to try and achieve that goal. Perfectionist children are involved in all-or-nothing mindset, all or nothing at all. He tends to measure self-capacity from success. Failure is something that is considered embarrassing.

Raising a perfectionist's child is certainly a big challenge for parents. Especially if there is no one among parents who has this trait. There are many questions that meet the head, but there is no definite answer how to deal with your little one. Father, Mother, so that you can overcome your little one who wants everything to be perfect, here VOI shares a picture of the steps to face a perfectionist child, launching Very Well Family, Monday, July 3.

Encourage your child to get involved in activities that help him feel comfortable with himself, not just what he achieves. Volunteership, learning new things, and engaging in artistic efforts are just a few ways to help children develop healthier self-esteem.

Whether your child wants to be the best basketball player in the whole school or be the best in every biological exam, explains that he can't control many circumstances that affect success. Like how difficult it is about the test given by the teacher or how good the ability of his peers to perform. But teach your child that he can control his own business.

Teach children to use mercy on themselves as an opponent of self-criticism. Have conversations with yourself loudly to show your child that you treat yourself well even when you make mistakes.

Say things like, 'I forgot to go to the bank today before the bank closed. I'll try to do better tomorrow, 'or' I don't pay attention to the stove as a result of a little charred dinner. I'll find something else to eat and I'll pay attention when I cook it.'

Make sure you don't pressure your child to be perfect. Create high but reasonable expectations. And monitor your expectations from time to time to make sure you don't expect too much from your child. If they fail to meet your goals or want to stop trying to achieve that goal, try to be sincere and give your child another chance to try.

Avoid praising your child for getting 100 on each test. On the other hand, praise him for studying hard. Praise the little one for treating other people well or for being a good friend. Explain that achievement is not the only important thing in life.

Talk to your child about the goals he wants to achieve. If this goal requires perfection, talk about the dangers of setting unrealistic high goals and helping him set more realistic goals.

Explain to your child that you are not perfect. Tell him the experience of your failure or other failures in life. Explain how you cope with these failures and can survive even if you are not a perfectionist.

Feelings of failure are uncomfortable. To that end, teaching children how to deal with disappointment, rejection, and mistakes in a healthy way. Talking to friends, writing a journal, or drawing are just a few skills that can help him cope with feelings of failure.