How Couples Interact Dailyly, Regarding Satisfaction And Intimacy In Sexual Relations

Illustration of satisfaction and intimacy in sexual relations from the way couples interact on a daily basis (Freepik/prostoleh)

YOGYAKARTA After work and feeling tired, one needs to be understood and supported when returning home. Understanding and providing support is also related to sexual activity for partners. According to professor of psychology Gurit Birnbaum, Ph.D., sex is not in a vacuum but is connected to everything that happens between you and your partner or partner.

If you feel your partner understands and supports, this creates a foundation of intimacy that leads to satisfying sexual relations. On the other hand, if there is conflict and lacks emotional closeness, it can dampen the desire to have sex with a partner.

Birnbaum explains, if you have a responsive partner, it's like having friends who care about your life. They listen to your worries, anxiety, and validate your feelings. This means you have a partner who really cares and cares. Responsiveness or capture power not only makes you feel warm, but has a big impact on your desire for your partner.

Reported by Psychology Today, Monday, May 29, when you think your partner is responsive, it's like a non-sexual foreplay. Which means that feeling understood and supported creates an environment that makes you want to be closer to your partner, including sexually. On the other hand, if you feel your partner doesn't care enough about your needs, it can reduce your desire to have sex and find it more difficult to enjoy it.

Research shows, having a partner that is responsive to many positive sides. First, you can more openly express emotions, easily forgive after a dispute, and feel more involved in relationships. Second, it also fosters intimacy and emotional ties, leading to satisfaction of all aspects of the relationship.

Research results found that when a person thinks his partner is responsive, it can cause more flexibility about them. This fantasy can strengthen emotional ties between partners and create deeper relationships. Unresponsive couples can also trigger their partner's self-image, or feel unattractive to their partner.

It is also important to understand that the level of responsiveness is related to the stage of relationship development. At the initial stage of the relationship, maybe your partner is very responsive. It doesn't mean that you are always good, too attention can also be bad for relationships. Referring to research and facts that occur, a person's sexual desire depends on the style of attachment and the needs of a related partner. If you have a safe style of entanglement, responsiveness can trigger your sexual interest. But if you have an independent style of entanglement, then overresponsiveness actually hinders sexual desire.

Birnbaum closed his explanation with an open conclusion. That one factor does not guarantee the maximum outcome of satisfaction in sexual intercourse. The most basic is building intimacy and emotional closeness outside the room which can be of any shape and simple form. For example, taking time to listen, validate, and support each other's needs.