4 Ways To Overcome Feelings Not Enough Good

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JAKARTA - We've all been feeling "not good enough" in some aspects of life. Maybe you've never felt like you'd never pass the exam, get a good partner, or get a job in the company.

In fact, it is important for you to challenge these thoughts because if you think about them for too long, it can turn into excessive belief and have a negative impact on self-esteem.

Here are four questions you can ask yourself when you're not feeling well enough, according to PsychCentral, Tuesday, April 18.

Often negative thoughts are based on feelings rather than evidence. And when you take the time to check the facts, you realize that you are much more capable than you might think.

You may even have an "impostor syndrome", a psychological phenomenon that causes you to doubt your own achievements. People with syndrome imposors believe their success is due to luck or other external factors rather than the ability of yourself. Remind yourself that you have worked hard to achieve the current goal of life.

Sometimes we feel we are not good enough because we compare ourselves to other people who are in different circumstances. We may also compare our own weaknesses with the strengths of others. It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique journey.

Focusing on strength and achievement can help you feel more confident and capable. Take time to record your positive achievements and qualities.

This list doesn't have to include real awards like a trophy though you can. You can also include the positive qualities you have, such as always doing your best or being good to animals.

Often, we are pushing ourselves too hard to be perfect, but this can be unrealistic and helpless. You may even suffer from atelophobia, an obsessive fear of imperfections.

It would be very helpful to ask yourself what the worst-case scenario would be if you weren't perfect, and you might find that it wasn't as bad as you imagined. In fact, making mistakes is the way we learn and grow.