4 Reasons Why People Often Feel Lonely In Marriage

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JAKARTA - Marriage and loneliness are actually not two words that should go hand in hand. Unfortunately, this often happens. Loneliness is a real thing for many couples. At this point, you may be wondering why this is happening, why you or your partner are lonely in marriage, when marriage is supposed to be a safe haven.

The reason is simple. Perhaps, the connection that you and your partner once had has disappeared or at least dimmed so that it is almost invisible. It could also be that over the years there has been an error in the way you and your partner communicate.

Lack of emotional intimacy is another reason why you may feel lonely in your marriage.

Adapted from the Healthline page, Wednesday, December 29, here are four reasons why people can feel lonely in marriage.

Fear of partner

Marrying someone with an abusive temperament can make you feel lonely in your marriage. Fear of aggressive behavior from your partner makes you try as much as possible to avoid their presence. Especially if your partner forces you away from your family and closest friends. This is a very serious cause of loneliness in marriage and one that needs to be addressed.

Lack of emotional support

Emotional support can make you and your partner feel attached to each other. If emotional support is lost in a marriage, then the relationship will be damaged and the seeds of loneliness in the marriage will begin to be felt. An example of a lack of emotional support is that you or your partner fail to consistently show empathy or affection for one another.

Reduced sexual intimacy

How often do you have sex with your partner? In marriages where one or both partners feel lonely, making love is rarely done. In addition, small intimate things such as kisses good morning, caress on the shoulder, or hugs are also never done again.

These romantic moments may be taken for granted, but these gestures are actually the beginning of sexual intimacy. If you never experience it again, you will most likely feel lonely.

Loss of quality time with partner

Why is quality time important? According to Jane Ohm, “that's because, no matter how much you know each other, over time, there will be new discoveries including interests, passions, aspirations, and even friends or foes. Effective communication and quality time together play a major role in maintaining relationships and preventing boredom.”