Cangung When Meeting Ex? Here Are 7 Expert Tips To Stay Calm

Illustration of being calm when meeting the former (Freepik / katemangostar)

YOGYAKARTA Meeting ex-lover needs to reorganize emotions. Maybe the past is bad or not as expected makes someone reluctant to meet an ex. But certain situations require meeting, such as in a circle of friendship, work, or close residence and a social circle.

A study published in the Journal of Neurophysiology, breakup may hurt a lot because it activates parts of the brain related to motivation, appreciation, and addiction desire. To appreciate meetings and not awkward, for example in a reunion atmosphere, experts give tips to stay calm when meeting an ex.

Sadness is the most comfortable to finish before meeting. Feeling sad, angry, or confused after breaking up is a natural thing. So give yourself time to process emotions because of loss in relationships.

Decide what limits you need to set with your ex-partners will make it easier for you to move on. This includes avoiding certain activities or places. In addition to limiting contact in any form, including social media.

When you see your ex-lover, be polite and polite. You don't have to be a good friend but try to respect and avoid unnecessary dramas.

You don't have to move to a city or move to a place to live to leave work. But if you need to have a limit, make the distance you need. While time may feel a lot of loss, but it's good for you.

Respecting who you are and what you offer to others is not an arrogant attitude. On the other hand, caring for yourself, especially when stressed, is very important to take yourself to a better place or a better partner for you.

Use a break to focus on yourself and well-being. Find new things or new interests to find a place more comfortable and enjoyable.

Supporting systems, such as friends and family, can support you. They offer ears to listen to complaints. They also provide encouragement and diversion from the end of the separation.

Those are the seven tips of psychologist and writer, Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D. reported by Psychology Today, Wednesday, April 26. With the tips above, you can enjoy the situation after losing more comfortably. If accidentally meet your ex, take a long breath and still realize that the current situation is different from your past.