Let's Re Marriage Harmoniously, Here Are 5 Tips To Forgive Your Partner's Mistakes

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JAKARTA - Every relationship must have been hit by a problem. When your partner apologizes for destabilizing it, how you deal with it is very important. To keep your relationship lasting, reported by Marriage, Wednesday, December 18, forgiveness is a crucial aspect.

Forgiving also makes you grow up to be a better person. Relationship is a two-way way. If there's a problem, you can't always accuse other people. You need to point your finger at yourself and see what happens.

It's possible for your partner to lie or try to hide something from you because he feels underestimated every time he talks about the things he likes. If you are able to understand the consequences of the words and actions that are conveyed and done. You can avoid getting into trouble by maintaining your attitude and forgive your partner.

Dozens of love are often the last thing you can give to hurt people. However, to forgive you must be able to see a little human side in your partner. Remember that your partner may have your own inner hurt, which affects the way he interacts with others. This does not justify his wrong behavior, but it can make you feel enough empathetic to forgive for the sake of your marriage.

You may not need to apologize for any damaged relationship. However, if you still want to be with a partner who has hurt, try discussing the root of the problem with your partner so that the relationship can continue. For serious injuries, take time to deal with personal pain or with the support of trusted friends. Also, you can go to a professional therapist before you face your partner. The goal is to relieve the most explosive emotions, which relate to the pain before reconnecting with that person.

For a relatively small problem, it's better to take a moment to calm yourself down first. This will allow you to be more objective in confrontation and more clear about what actually bothers you. Once calmer ask your partner to explain what he meant to make sure you interpret his behavior accurately.

Don't make baseless accusations about a person's character (for example, "You're a bad person") and never use swearing. Such tactics are unfair and almost always provoke hostile reactions from others. You may feel relieved for a moment by using such language, but that won't help get what you're really looking for, namely validation of feelings and expressions of regret from your partner.

Even after the confrontation, you may still find yourself struggling with feelings of revenge. An apology, if any, feels unsatisfactory. Even if the apology is satisfactory, you may still find a feeling of old grudge emerging over time. Just admit that pain when it comes and updates your inner mind to forgiveness. Forgiving may not be done instantly, but by renewing your commitment to forgiveness, you clean your heart and save your future marriage.