JAKARTA – A happy marriage can be built in certain ways. You may think it's simple, but it's no secret that you do special things to keep your marriage happy. What are the secrets? Scientifically, these 7 things you need to understand.
Celebrating the good newsHoward Markman, director of the Center for Marriage and Family Studies at the University of Denver, points out that positivity in marital relationships is very important. But the amount of pleasure a couple has and the strength of the couple's friendship has a stronger influence on the future of the marriage.
In his research found that couples who regularly celebrate the good times have higher levels of commitment, intimacy, trust, and life satisfaction.
Understand the 5 to 1 interaction ratioReported by Time, Wednesday, June 9, the ratio of positive interactions is five times more than negative interactions proven by researchers at the University of Washington can strengthen marital relationships. Otherwise, there is a high risk of experiencing separation.
The higher the expectation, the more one getsMany people are more pessimistic and expect less. But in fact, higher expectations are equal to what one gets. Doctor Baucom found that married couples who have high enough expectations then their marriage is in good condition.
Opportunities and efforts to get a happy marriage also depart from expectations.
Keep in touch with family and friendsMarriage is not a limit to establish closeness with family and friends. Marriage is a priority, but sharing happiness with those around you can make it more meaningful.
Doctor Coontz thinks that the happiest couples are those who have interests and support 'outside of the two'.
Don't depend on your partner to be happyEmotional demands that are too great are actually pressing. Research also shows that most people's happiness returns to their natural base.
That is, happiness lies in each individual and expecting a partner to make you happy is not always realistic and fair.
Major events such as marriage and the birth of a child, according to research indicated on a scale of 1 to 10, only offer short-term happiness. But you can get a happiness scale of 7.5 if you go back to yourself for happiness.
Make love more often
Throughout the marriage, the desire to make love may be reduced. Even so, sex is healthy and has a variety of biological and emotional benefits that cannot be ignored.
Try new thingsMore interesting activities are not the same as fun activities. You can do things your partner likes but don't interest either of them. That is, discuss new things that you and your partner like.
Do not stop experiencing and try new experiences on the agreement of both.
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