Know 6 Types Of Angry Expressions And How To Control Them So As Not To Damage Your Relationship

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JAKARTA – Everyone has a different character and expresses anger based on their type. Anger can interfere with one's relationship with another. Even unmanaged anger can interfere with a person's mental health.

Then it is necessary to control the anger precisely according to the type in expressing anger. Citing from Real Simple, Monday, May 17, here are the types of angry expressions and how to control them.

Explosive

Explosive expressions of anger can be likened to volcanic explosions. When a person is angry, adrenaline peaks and emotions explode. This can make people around you get out of the way when they know your anger is dangerous enough.

Explosive anger barely weighs empathy and is harsh. In the end, it may be regrettable. According to Ronald Potter-Efron, Ph.D., anger management specialist, the neurologically explosive anger response lasts less than two seconds.

The only way to control explosive anger is to master emotions. Most likely, temporarily distract by breathing long or leaving the room and looking for fresh air to calm down.

Self-harm

Self-abuse or self-harm when in anger is common when self-esteem falls and feels safer angering yourself. If continuously done, it can experience disappointment to depression. Expert advice, ask yourself whenever mistakes are thrown at yourself.

In addition to advice, one needs to increase self-esteem and make a list of positive self-qualities to develop a sense of worth as well as overcome self-blame.

Evasion

When someone puts on a happy face when a ball of anger is cobbled around the chest, it is called the avoidance of angry expressions. This type buries aggression and according to Potter-Efron evasion over this anger often occurs in women.

The function of anger is to encourage resolution, if deliberately avoided can be self-destructive. Avoidance of anger seems to give the green light to others to make amends.

That is, avoidance needs to be overcome by 'getting out' of harboring anger and giving people that anger you a chance to make amends. Have a healthy confrontation in a positive and constructive way.

Sarcasm

Cynical and insinuating speeches need to be avoided because it is less to the point at the core of the problem. This is classified as a negative emotional disclosure because scathing comments can damage relationships without the help of finding a shared solution.

The most appropriate way, say it straight away and find the right word to express your feelings. Be assertive and clear without exploding so that others know what the point is.

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Passive-aggressive

Passive-aggressive is anger that slips and can frustrate others. Passive-aggressive type anger is characterized by anger that is not hidden but not expressed in light. It usually happens because someone doesn't like confrontation but doesn't want to release anger healthily.

"People get angry being passive-aggressive when they're sure they can't fight other people", Potter-Efron said.

Potter-Efron's advice, allow yourself to be angry, support yourself and stay in control.

Habitual irritation

The habits of others you recognize enough can be a tool for expressing one's anger. Though it is quite possible because it is not a habit, another thing that makes you jealous. For example, a colleague gets a promotion while you feel more worthy of their position.

This can trigger anything in your eyes wrong and deserves to be a tool to release upsets. As a result, you'll get stuck in the same vicious circle. How to solve it, identify the essence of the problem and dig into the events that upset you.

Finally, trying to make peace with yourself and uncontrollable circumstances is a way to express anger healthily. Listen to your conscience and don't be too loud on yourself.