JAKARTA - If you wonder, "How can you make a relationship happy?" know that a happy relationship is not based on luck. It takes effort and continuous commitment from all parties to want to be together.

Neena Lall, LCSW, a Grouport therapist who lives in New York City, said that happy relationships are built on the basis of communication and expressing what makes you happy.

"You and your partner can decide together what a happy relationship will be for you," he said, launching Psych Central, Wednesday, March 19.

Most healthy relationships have some things in common. Knowing the facts behind it can be the key to maintaining a lasting and happy relationship. Here are some of the characteristics of a happy and healthy relationship.

The peaking feeling of joy will not last forever.

"All relationships have their ups and downs," said Lall. Expecting everything to run smoothly and beautifully is not realistic.

Angela Amias, LCSW, a therapist in Wyoming and a relationship expert says that maintaining a realistic perspective helps you appreciate every moment together and helps you grow up together through difficult times.

"Strengthening a relationship means being very close to him and taking care of him regularly, just like taking care of living things," said Amias.

You can consider it a resilient' exercise. Couples can use difficult times and challenges to train, train, and repeat in order to strengthen relationships consistently.

" Quality time is important for a relationship as that time is able to maintain emotional (and often physical) relationships," said Rebecca Phillips, LPC, who lives in Frisco, Texas.

"It's also important to spend time together while you're in a long distance relationship," Phillips said.

"If you live in a different city or one of you often travels to work, take as much time as possible to feel connected again," added Krista Jordan, PhD, a certified clinical psychologist in Austin, Texas.

Ideally, Jordan said, couples must provide quality time to build positive memories.

Spending time separately can also be an important component of a happy relationship.

"Each couple has different autonomous needs. As long as the two couples are happy with the level of autonomy versus mutual dependence, there will be no problems," Jordan said.

"Time alone can maintain relationships by instilling new things, or it can also feel deserted," Jordan explained.

Every couple needs to discuss this openly and ensure that the right balance is reached.

Being close to someone different from you can make your relationship healthy, Jordan said.

"Try to ask yourself what benefits might be obtained from the difference between partners," he added. Challenge yourself to see it as added value, at least in certain situations.

"You can't force your partner to change, but you can communicate what you're feeling," Brown said. The only person you can change is yourself.

Brown explained that communicating effectively with your partner will help make conscious decisions to change.

Omar Ruiz, LMFT, a marriage and family therapist in Wellesley, Massachusetts, agrees with Brown and says people in relationships can influence their partner.

Someone who likes fitness and health cannot force their partner to have the same hobby, but their consistency and encouragement to live a healthy lifestyle can certainly affect their partner, "explained Ruiz.

Conflict can be part of a healthy and committed relationship. However, it is also important to accept that some battles cannot be won.

"Ask yourself, 'Will this be a problem in 10 years?' If the answer is not, just forget it,' Jordan said. There's no point in thinking too much about small things, he added.

Communication is key to all relationships, and if you can't communicate effectively with your partner, your voice won't be heard, Ruiz said. Phillips suggests studying effective communication strategies for use during conflict.

"The truth is the basis of intimacy," Jordan said. To feel very close to someone, you can't hide information or lie. When talking about honesty, "Honesty helps you feel more loved when your partner knows your strengths and all your shortcomings," Jordan said.

Show respect for your partner every day shows that they can trust you and that you deserve to be defended, Jordan said.

"Considering your partner's feelings and opinions and making adjustments for them is the right way to show respect," Phillips said.


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