5 Reasons Couples Cheat Emotionally, Lack Of Attention?

Illustration of the reasons for couples to have an emotional affair (Freepik/garetvisual)

YOGYAKARTA Infidelity is emotional, not easily caught visually. The reason is, it is often suppressed and occurs without being revealed straightforwardly, in contrast to sexual infidelity which refers to the fulfillment of biological or physical needs. Research data reported by Psychology Today, Thursday, December 5, between 15 and 20 percent of married couples are colored by infidelity. According to licensed psychologist Jonice Webb, Ph.D., infidelity emotionally tends to have a root in loneliness. Here's the reason why your partner has an emotional affair.

A person who hates fights may see a lot of fighting events in his past experiences. Not without effects, this forms a person's personality to avoid conflict. Included in marriage, when a problem arises, he chooses to hide it. Conflicts and talking about problems are considered unpleasant. So choosing to seek emotional comfort elsewhere and share feelings without threats of conflict with someone other than his partner, can be an affair.

A person who feels very lonely in his marriage life, will seek fulfillment of his emotional needs. This may be experienced when a person plays more roles in marriage and doesn't get what is needed in his relationship with a partner. For that reason, someone is looking for someone who can make him themselves, is more appreciated, or understands what he is going through than his partner.

Assertive communication between two people who are married or committed to marriage, one of which aims to understand each other's perspectives and emotional needs. So that your partner can understand each other and provide for each other and support their partner. However, assumptions often cripple communication efforts. When one of the people in pairs feels he plays a bigger role in meeting his partner's emotional needs, it is not equal. Therefore, because of these conditions, he relies on other people to get support for his big role in marriage.

Someone who grows up in a 'cold' family, feels that they are validating their feelings. This is about neglect, which turns out to be significant in shaping views on how to prioritize emotional needs. People who are neglected, they also ignore their own feelings. Unfortunately, this makes it difficult for couples to recognize each other's feelings. Important conversations about children, the future of both, and finances are often cut off due to such neglect. So that emotional relationships break up, and easily attract to others who offer attention and make them not neglected.

The reason why your partner has an emotional affair, can be because of a lot of problems but is not talked about because they feel uncomfortable. So a partner who is proactive in communicating, asks each other's circumstances and pays attention to his partner and relationships, needs to be done to build an emotional bond. The breakup of an emotional bond between partners makes one of the people comfortable and enjoys chatting casually with new people because they feel full of hope.

According to Webb, emotional needs in marriage are important to fulfill. Like by sharing feelings and validating. And not avoiding conflict in an effort to solve the problems faced. Webb's advice again, it is important to focus on marriage relationships and understand that new people are not a solution to overcome emotional decisions with your partner.