Better To Release Expectations Or Sacrifice For Harmonious Relations? Here's The Expert Recommendation

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YOGYAKARTA In maintaining a harmonious relationship and looking for someone you love, a person often experiences a dilemma between releasing expectations and accepting what they are or running for the sake of the relationship. The problem is, if we are too focused, less flexible, and stiff, it will close the opportunity. This means how is the key to maintaining harmonious relations in a new relationship or already chronic?

There are three keys to understanding, according to American-based psychologist Markploy, Ph.D. First, understand that a perfect partner doesn't exist. That's why life expectancy with a partner that is smart, funny, interesting, good, and rich, is not based on the reality.

Obviously Mark, true love comes in a variety of forms and is rarely perfect. So you can hold on to the perspective that love is something we sow over time. That is, try to open up to an authentic and satisfying relationship rather than hoping for perfection.

Second, you don't always want the same thing. If one time you match someone with an introvert personality, another time you need a challenge. So understand that each personality contributes to the relationship.

Everyone has their own qualities and quality affects relationships independently. So instead of trying to change your partner's personality to suit your expectations, it is better to create a dynamic and interesting relationship to create new experiences with your partner.

Third, everyone has to be good at compromising, especially in a couple relationship. It doesn't sound romantic, or it seems political. But this is an important part of a stable relationship. Isn't love not about one person getting everything he wants? Love sometimes needs hope, release, sacrifice, work together, and support each other. That means, you don't always have to give up expectations or make sacrifices, but try to compromise with your partner.