6 Ways To Protect Yourself From Couple Love Bombing Attacks

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JAKARTA - Love bombing occurs when a person expresses excessive praise and affection, with the aim of manipulating his partner. This action can cause neglect of red flags in the relationship. But, sooner or later, you will realize when your partner's true nature begins to appear.

Have you ever experienced love bombing before or have you never experienced but want to protect yourself from danger if one day you are entangled in love bombing. Consider the following six tips when dating a new partner as directed from Psychology Today, Tuesday, August 27.

Love bombing makes a new relationship feel very fast by creating an illusion of closeness. To recognize warning signs, it is important to maintain the tempo of dating when getting to know new people.

The trick, keep doing your daily activities as usual and invest energy in other things outside of your relationship. A love bomber will often try to dominate your early times by constantly contacting and pressing you to meet him more often than you would like.

Love bombers focus on keeping you bound as quickly as possible so they act impulsively and impatiently. They may test your boundaries by acting as if you're already in a relationship even though you've said you're not ready to be exclusive or expect intense communication.

If they try to speed up physical or emotional relationships before you feel ready, train setting boundaries and pay attention to their responses. If you state that you want to slow down the relationship rate, pay close attention to how they respond. Is it receptive or defensive? Responses can tell you a lot about intent, will you consider your needs or will you simply focus on relationships that suit their wishes?

A love bomber will initially engage in what is known as a "future factor" and promises to be empty to lure you into the potential relationship. In order to prevent yourself from focusing on potential, you should focus on the present and observe whether your actions are in line with their words from time to time.

People who are often involved in love bombing also tend to withdraw their love and give a little affection once they realize that their prey has entered the trap. For that, you should refrain from loving your partner too much.

Intuition is a super force in dating. Generally when you fall in love, people start to shrink intuition and all doubts or initial feelings that something is wrong. Whether it's a subtle whisper or a loud alarm bell, take some time to slow down and listen carefully to what your intuition says. Think about how your body feels in front of this person, how you feel about the relationship that is developing, and whether there are concerns that need to be discussed and asked further.

The characteristic feature of love bombing is strong chemistry and is just lulled away. Even though chemistry is great, chemistry can be easily misinterpreted as a match and causes you to miss early warning signs that someone is in love bombing.

One way to protect yourself from misunderstandings between chemistry and compatibility is to learn the core values of others and whether these values are in line with you. Chemistry can be appropriate, but if your core values are not aligned, the relationship will not continue.

A person who is often involved in love bombing often leaves traces of a relationship that quickly passes and ends in failure. As well as a little space between relationships to develop or learn from past mistakes.

Pay attention to how they describe their past relationship. Do they use demeaning language or label all formers as inappropriate people. Are they responsible for their role in the destruction of past relations or do they constantly blame each former for their failed relationship? Do they have sufficient space and time between relationships or appear to move from one relationship to the next?