7 Tips To Stop The Habit Of Lying, First Check The Trigger

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JAKARTA - Most people have lied once or twice in life. Whether it's because they want to keep someone from getting hurt, misleading someone in order to achieve personal goals, or lying to themselves about their true feelings.

But, if lying has become your regular habit, try not to be hard on yourself. Ask yourself how to break this pattern and be more honest in the future. VOI, citing Healthline, Tuesday, July 23, shares tips on stopping lying habits.

When you lie, try to pause for a moment and pay attention to what's going on in you. Try asking yourself some questions like where are you? With whom? And how do you care?

Are you lying to make yourself feel better or avoid making other people feel bad?

Answering these questions can help you determine which scenarios, emotions, or other factors trigger you to lie. Once you identify some of the triggers, pay close attention to the trigger and think about some new ways to respond.

Lies can vary in shape. Erin Bryant, the author of a small 2008 study who observed how students separate white lies from other types of bins, argues that lies can be divided into several categories. Knowing the type of lies you tend to do can help better understand the reasons behind your lies.

It's not always easy to say no, especially if you don't want to hurt your friends' feelings or face the consequences that might happen at work. But being more firm on your needs can help you reveal what's best for you.

If you lie because you think the truth will upset someone or hurt you. Ask yourself what the worst result will be if you decide to tell the truth. The possibility is, it's not as bad as you think.

If you're trying to be honest, don't try to change things and stop lying completely from then on. Of course, this may sound like a good plan, but it's not realistic. Instead, commit to being more honest every day. If you're wrong or find yourself lying again, don't be discouraged. You can make different choices tomorrow.

If acquaintances, co-workers, or family members ask annoying questions about your personal life, you may be tempted to lie and ignore them. At the same time, you are not obliged to give everyone open access to your life. You don't have to lie to avoid sharing the details you want to keep secret. Instead, try to refuse politely but firmly.

Having a habit of lying can arise because you are afraid to accept the risks that exist. If that's the simple sign, it means you can't help but dare to face risks. Learn to be an adult by daring to face the risks of the decisions you make.