5 Reasons Why Being A Ghosting Victim Feels Very Painful

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JAKARTA - A survey of 5,000 people conducted by Forbes Health found that 76 percent of participants had ghosted other people or became victims. Just because ghosting becomes more common does not mean the handling will be easier if that happens.

For most people, separation often takes time to process and heal. However, moving on feels heavier when separation never really happens because your partner is ghosting.

If you've been a ghosting victim and it's hard to live, consider whether one of the following reasons might play a role.

When you don't know for sure the cause behind the end of the relationship that is being built. The mind will rotate and wonder what happened and what you might have done so that your partner ends communication suddenly.

When faced with unknown things, the brain tries to find certainty because unknown things tend to trigger anxiety. The desire to gain certainty is the way the brain keeps you safe.

When in a situation of uncertainty such as being ghosted, the body will naturally experience stress because you are trying to find out the cause of the ghosting. This can trigger a longer movement on process.

For those of you who have experienced trauma from neglect, betrayal, or loss of loved ones such as parents or ex-girlfriends. Ghosting can be very painful and difficult to overcome. The reason is, ghosting often revives old wounds and tends to cause sadness in the past.

Reporting from Psychology Today, Tuesday, June 11, because you don't have an answer or control over the situation, you may start focusing on the only perpetrator, namely yourself. If there is no answer, you may blame yourself for easing your questions and finding a solution. However, even if you are tempted to blame yourself, it can lead to endless curiosity and suffering that will only exacerbate pain and burden your relationship with yourself.

You may start questioning your reality, including your own judgment and what signs you might miss. These questions can quickly turn into unhealthy contemplations that prevent you from continuing your life.

The emotional pain that ghosting often causes can be more painful than you realize. Ghosting is a form of social rejection and research shows that when a person feels rejected, a receptor of pain in the brain will burn up in the same area where they feel physical pain.

This is why those who are experiencing heartbreak report feeling physical pain. The highly connected mind and body and painful emotions can manifest physically.