If You Are Ghosted, Do These 5 Things Let Your Heart Be Calm

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JAKARTA - Ghosting occurs when someone suddenly ends communication with you without any explanation. Currently, ghosting phenomenon is becoming more common than before. A survey of 5,000 people conducted by Forbes Health found that 76 percent of participants had ghosted while dating.

Being a ghosting victim can cause happiness. Life seems to be full of unsolved mysteries. The reason is, you don't know the exact reason why your date cut off communication.

If you are or have experienced ghosting and are difficult to move on, try to do the following. Reported from Psychology Today, Tuesday, June 4, here is the explanation.

Often, people mistakenly think that the breaking sentence should be said by a partner. With thoughts like this, power seems to be in the hands of others and you have no choice but to wait for the ghost to start the conversation. Realize that the silent action taken is a manifestation of ending the relationship. No need to wait for him to contact, just assume the relationship has ended.

Due to the loss of contact, many people who are hosted begin to blame themselves. Instead of this, you should focus on looking back on your partner's nature. The ideal personality to be made a partner must at least mature emotionally. Emotionally mature people will not ghost. Think, if this is how to end the relationship then how will he face severe problems in life that need serious discussion?

You may be tempted to ignore feelings or avoid them, but it will only slow down the healing process. If it's ready, let yourself have your own solution and express feelings that you don't have time to convey to your partner. Consider writing a letter or voice record for an ex that doesn't have time to say. Then, burn, tear, or delete. Do this as much as necessary until you feel there is nothing more to process.

Continuing to see your ex through social media, old photos, or memories can interfere with the healing process. For that, you should avoid finding out all the information about your ex-partner. If old memories reappear, just leave them alone. Because the more fought, the stronger the memory will be. You can practice mindfulness so you can live today.

In addition to stopping blaming yourself, learn to love yourself. If you find it difficult to convey affection to yourself, imagine how you will support friends who are experiencing a similar situation. What will you tell them and how do you entertain them? Then, practice applying the same support to yourself.