5 Reasons Why Ghosting Has Been Difficult To Move On

Illustration of the reason for getting ghosted is so difficult to move on (Freepik/cococonie_studio)

YOGYAKARTA Romantic relationships end without clarity, or getting ghosted, tend to make it difficult for someone to move on. It makes a person confined to a bad experience and finds it difficult to open up to a new love story.

A survey conducted on 5,000 participants by Forbes Health, as many as 76 percent of participants have done and been ghosted while dating. This marks that the phenomenon of vanishing' without a clear decision is often experienced. If that happens, it may be difficult to encourage someone to move on. According to clinical psychologist Roxy Zarrabi, Psy.D., here's why.

After getting ghosted, someone doesn't know for sure the reason why the person he made him meant leaving him without news. This makes him wonder even always anxious and makes a bad scenario in his head. Zarrabi explained that as reported by Psychology Today, Thursday, February 22, the brain is designed to attract certainty. The goal is to protect against potential harm. In terms of ghosting, certainty is not obtained and makes it stagnating because he is confused about not having an answer why it was left behind.

A 'victim' ghosting, will feel the wound getting more and more painful. This also makes him look negative. For those who have experienced neglect, betrayal, and loss related to parenting or previous romantic relationships, they tend to live in past sadness. It also builds the belief that they are not worthy of love.

Because they have no answer or control over the ghosting situation they are experiencing, one might focus on blaming themselves. This method is actually considered an 'runaway' because they have to get an answer who is wrong.

Ghosting encourages a person to find it difficult to open a new relationship again. This is because they are afraid to experience bad things again in relationships or doubt themselves. The meaning of self is also running low, because the experience of ghosting makes them wonder if other people care about it so they may not end the relationship without explanation.

Emotional pain is often caused by ghosting. The pain is less conscious, because ghosting is a form of social rejection. Research shows that when a person feels rejected, a receptor of pain in the brain will ignite in the same area where they feel physical pain. This is why those with broken heart reports physical pain.

For the reason why you get ghosting is quite painful. It even makes a person shackled by bad past experiences related to romantic relationships.