If You Already Have A Partner, Avoid The 7 Largest Mistakes That Damage Your Relationship

Illustration of mistakes that damage a pair relationship (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Everyone makes mistakes, but if they are repeated, it can be a disaster. Especially mistakes made in a couple or romantic relationship. According to licensed psychotherapist and AASECT certified sex therapist, Caitlin Cantor, LSCW., CST., the first step to build a healthy partner relationship is to be aware. Then, start identifying what needs to be corrected, including after making a mistake below.

If you don't check with each other, you are in a relationship with yourself, not with your partner. So being relational means dealing with your partner about the relationship you are building. For that, don't make assumptions because it doesn't build peace between you and your partner.

Blame each other for not creating a role dynamic that supports each other to grow and change for the better. Instead of blaming each other, it's better to support each other to complete responsibilities and respect your partner's choices.

When you avoid conversations you know need to do, your problems get bigger, not smaller. You need to take the time to solve the problem so you don't get carried away into the future.

Dating a partner even though you have been committed for a long time still needs to be done. Cantor's message reported by Psychology Today, Monday, December 11, never stop dating your partner. Don't stop trying to impress each other. It's also important to prioritize relationships and take time together. If you and your partner don't try to maintain romance, then the relationship will feel cold.

Regrets may be expressed with an apology. That's a sign you have shown responsibility for the actions taken. But it's important to say regret at the right time. Don't do it too often because you won't solve the problem.

If you and your partner are committed to having sex, don't think of it spontaneously. It is important to consider each other's time and activity and everything. Scheduled intimate time together can be a very sexy thing, something spontaneous sex cannot do. If you want to have sex more often or continue to have sex that you are currently having, you may need to plan it at least for some time.

It makes sense that you don't want to hurt your partner. But sometimes it's hard to accept what everyone needs in a partner's commitment. It's important to prioritize the needs of both, but consider again if you have to sacrifice your self-need in order to fulfill your partner's responsibility for emotions.

The top are the seven mistakes that need to be avoided in a couple's life. Have you ever experienced it? Cantor's advice, building important trust is done. Maintaining emotional closeness does not mean you are responsible for your partner's emotions.