5 Ways To Build Effective Communication With Your Partner For The Harmony Of Relationships

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JAKARTA - In a romantic relationship, effective communication skills can make a difference between cooperative and enlightening conversations. As well as aggressive arguments and trigger anxiety. In the long term, good communication can also deepen and strengthen relationships. Meanwhile, poor communication can damage and even end relationships.

If you and your partner have different preferences for certain things, that doesn't matter. Differences in viewpoints are realistic. Precisely if you feel the same in every way, maybe your relationship should be questioned.

According to relationship researcher and doctor Dr. John Gottman, disputes are not always a threat to marriage. In fact, two-thirds of disputes cannot be resolved, meaning that you learn to deal with these disputes and make compromises. The problem is when you and your partner stop communicating. You don't need to agree in everything for the sake of fun with each other. Be different and discuss those differences to find a middle way.

You can only control yourself, not others.

"The irony is that most people are so caught up in efforts to control things they cannot control, such as other people, circumstances, or results. So that in the process they lose control of themselves," said Dr. Henry Cloud, quoted by Psych Central, Tuesday, October 31.

When you focus on efforts to improve people or other situations beyond your reach of influence, it's the same as wasting valuable energy that can actually be used to regulate your attitude, words, and actions.

If your partner starts a fight, you don't need to agree to the invitation. Just take a deep breath and ask yourself whether this issue needs to be discussed? If so, think about how to do it calmly, no matter how your partner behaves at that time.

Remember that your only responsibility is your own behavior. What response will allow you to live in peace with yourself? Sometimes the best thing is to ignore provocations and keep running your business.

When the conflict occurs, take a deep breath several times. Count up to 10. If you feel too restless to think clearly, get rid of the situation so you can calm down. However, don't use this technique as an excuse to run away from conflict. Set a certain time with your partner so that you can return to discussing the problems that occur.

Saying sorry when making mistakes, but continuing to make mistakes repeatedly is the same as taking apologies lightly. An apology means you regret your actions or promise to change that bad behavior in the future.

Although there will be times when mistakes can happen again, but if you really want to and try to do better, then the best results can be met.