Having Me Time Is The Right Of All Mothers

Behavioral cognitive psychologist, Maizan Dianati at Hello Super Moms: The Secret to Mom and Kid Happiness from Physiogel in Jakarta. (Photo via ANTARA/Arif Prada)

JAKARTA - It is important for a mother to take time for herself. They have the right to get time to do hobbies, exercise, or reflect without interruption.

This was conveyed by a behavioral cognitive psychologist from Padjadjaran University, Maizan Dianati SPsi, M.Sc. According to him, happiness from a mother will be closely related to the development of the child.

"Having 'Me Time' is the right of every mother. When mothers are happy or have good mental condition, children can also feel happy and spend all their potential to the maximum," said Maizan.

He said a happy mother will be better able to provide good care for children, so that children will be happier.

"When the mother is happy, she will be more emotional, more attached to the child, and better able to face problems calmly, this can have an impact on parenting," Maizan said in a discussion in Jakarta, as reported by Antara, Saturday.

Maizan explained that unhappy mothers will be more easily stressed, anxious, and angry. This can have a negative impact on parenting, for example, mothers become less patient, easily angry, and are not responsive to their child's needs

Furthermore, Maizan encouraged mothers to accept the fact that not all aspects of life can be controlled, a view that can reduce the level of anxiety that mothers may feel.

In order to achieve happiness, Maizan emphasized the importance of respecting yourself for the small achievements that have been achieved in the role of mother, considering that being a mother is not an easy task.

Furthermore, he advised mothers not to hesitate in delegating part of their duties to others, such as husbands, family, or friends, who can help in managing part of their daily responsibilities, providing space for mothers to feel more relieved and able to focus on creating happiness for the whole family.

Maizan added, if anxiety or sadness continues for a long period, seeking professional assistance is a wise step.

"Talking to an expert can help solve this problem with the right support," said Maizan.

He then revealed that children also need special attention and action in order to create their happiness.

A mother must spend quality time with a child without interruption. This can mean by turning off the device completely focuses on each other's interactions. This will help build a strong bond between mother and child.

Validation of children's opinions and emotions is an important step in providing emotional support. Although there may be differences of opinion, listening carefully will give children a sense of being listened to and appreciated.

Ensuring a good routine in their child's life will help them feel comfortable and children know what will happen next, so they feel more under control.

In addition, conducting periodic observations of children's health and behavior is also an important action. It aims to ensure that children feel good and do not experience problems that may not be detected.

Maizan added that maintaining the happiness of mothers and children will be an important step in forming a harmonious family.