YOGYAKARTA Growing up too quickly has certain encouragements. Psychiatrists and mental health therapists refer to it as euphemism, because it is used to replace or cover other phrases that are harsher, more harmful, and unpleasant.

The euphemism of growing up is too fast used to minimize the pain the person feels as a child when his needs are not met by describing it in a language that seems neutral or even positive. In fact, growing up too quickly beyond age is just a picture of neglecting to be children and demands that they take care of themselves better or wiser than others. Launching PsychCentral, Sunday, October 8, this happened due to the following impact.

Being a parent needs to learn how to give responsibilities according to the age of the child. If it burdens children with responsibilities that are more than their capacity, or more than they should, it is unrealistic for children. This can have an impact on the growth of maturity earlier than their ideal age.

The consequence of expecting children to do a task without anyone actually teaching how to do it, and being punished if it fails. Or expecting children to be perfect, and if, naturally, they are not perfect, they then receive harsh negative consequences for it. This is not just a happening once, but an atmosphere that constantly leaves children with no choice but to live.

Self-healing must always be strong, resulting in decoupling needs and sometimes ignoring fatigue, hunger, satifaction, depression, and so on. This is the impact of adults being too early to act too emotionally protective and people can't get close to you and then lead to an unsatisfactory relationship.

If you often do everything yourself and can't ask for help, you will often feel lonely, isolated, don't need to believe, or that you are alone against the world. You also find it difficult to express your needs to others. The impact of adults is too fast, so they can't ask for help even though they realize they need help from others.

You certainly recognize the trauma, harassment and injustice situation you are experiencing. But when you are an adult too fast, believe that being a victim, weak, and injured is totally unacceptable. This situation blocks compassion and empathy for yourself. Furthermore, this makes you unable to fully cure trauma.

This impact leads to relationships and a social environment where one may be neglected like childhood. Namely more empathizing with people who hurt more than yourself. This makes it impossible for the person to resolve childhood trauma for the same reason. So, it is important for a person to be emotionally connected and empathize with childhood experiences without justifying people who fail to meet your needs.

According to the mental health and author's coach, Darius Cikanavicius, the most common impact of growing up is too fast, including being able to hurt yourself, work crazy, trying to take care of others and please others more than ability, and having unrealistic standards. In those situations, one can bear false responsibilities, chronic anxiety, lack of closeness in relationships, and coding.


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