Caper Children Including The Form Of Emotional Dependence, Here Are 9 Tips To Overcome It

Illustration of tips on overcoming caper children or seeking attention (Freepic/jcomp)

YOGYAKARTA Children's behaviors that like the way of attention from their parents, including natural. But if you start to insist on getting the attention of your caregiver, it might make you a little frustrated. It is important to know, caper or seek attention, including the form of emotional dependence. The attention sought includes glimpses, approval, praise, affection, certainty, closeness, physical contact, and others.

A psychiatrist John Bowlby and developmental psychologist Mary Ainsworth stated that babies are born with a congenital desire to form bonds with their caregivers to ensure their survival. A baby may cry, nag, fuss, or move towards its parents to seek closeness. Reported by Parenting for Brain, Wednesday, September 27, when a baby receives warm, sensitive, and responsive parenting in response to its entanglement behavior, a safe entanglement is formed.

This sense of security is the basis for children's development. Like they have high self-esteem and develop independence as they grow from this safe attachment. It is different if the opposite happens, if their emotional needs are not met, they show more behavior in seeking attention and crying as they grow. Tips on overcoming caper children or seeking attention that is starting to trouble parents, do the following.

Punishing or treating the behavior of capers, makes the emotional closeness between children further away. Some children will stop caper behavior if temporarily neglected. However, this only fixes symptoms but does not solve the underlying problem.

It is important for parents to say caper behavior is not based on empathy. Sometimes, he gets angry because he wants candy but actually he needs emotional security. So show them your attention and give them a chance to explain. For example, 'Nak, I noticed you are easily angry this week because of small things. Are you really annoyed with this candy, or are you annoyed because of me'. Then, help your child express himself in words rather than act.

If you directly ask your child who is seeking attention, they can sometimes immediately confirm the problem. However, sometimes they may not realize the real cause. This especially applies to very young children. In this case, you need to help them find the real problem.

When your child is caped, then you need to recognize the pattern. Once you know their emotional patterns, you can ask directly about issues that encourage this behavior. Then, you can teach them how to behave properly. It's important to remember, preventing childhood caper behavior is better than fixing it when they grow up.

Human species are group animals. Evolutionually, we are encouraged to live in communities and maintain relationships. That is, creating connections or bonds is not a mistake. Although children are seeking attention to build entanglement, don't blame it. It's better to show how to build entanglement correctly, without a caper that can be tiring for parents.

Preventing children from caping, it is necessary to use proactive strategies. Parents need to try to spend enough time with them and give their full attention regularly. By getting enough attention, children are encouraged to behave positively.

Tentu sesuatu yang berlebihan tidak akan baik. Maka ortu tidak perlu memberisan anaknya dengan perhatian untuk menunjukkan kekasihan mereka. Sesuatu yang sederim menguji behavioran anak Anda yang layak atau mengikut selama 10-15 menit dapat menunjukkan kepada mereka bahwa Anda peduli dan memperhati mereka.

Parents often pay attention to negative behavior but still can't stop it. This usually happens if they have wrong priorities. For example, you tend to cope with caper behavior because stopping it is considered a priority. In fact, it is important to pay attention to children's needs as a top priority. Just implement a strategy to overcome caper behavior.

Changing children's behavior is like teaching them to walk and talk. Changing behavior cannot be done just overnight, but is sustainable and requires patience. You can have expectations to measure developments or behavior changes according to the added age. However, when it is too difficult or too heavy, don't hesitate to seek professional help such as child psychologists.

Those are nine tips for overcoming children who like to be capers. In the way above, you can combine and build emotional ties with children without making them seek attention.