YOGYAKARTA – Appreciating the positive aspects in every life journey needs to be done. Even though some things are out of control, a positive inner dialogue is needed to increase well-being, hope, and motivation.

Things out of control can be discouraging, according to Chelom E. Leavitt, JD/Ph.D.. To be sure you can get past things out of control and support your loved ones, here are some recommendations for effective self-control.

1. Prayer or meditation

Positive internal dialogue can be done with prayer or meditation. According to a number of studies, these two ways are effective at bonding and encouraging a sense of connectedness. For some people, it may have taken this step to tighten control to strengthen themselves.

2. Talk positively

Citing Psychology Today, Monday, April 25, in a systematic review of studies on self-talk, researchers found that positive and instructional talk was beneficial for both sports and performative performance. No matter what the activity, a little encouragement can increase effort or help us develop more fortitude.

3. Knowing your potential

Motivation can come from within or through the support of the closest people. Their skills and the potential need to be appreciated. Every now and then, praise yourself for being able to get things done to your full potential. At other times, acknowledge reality and get inspired to keep growing.

4. Take care of yourself, both mentally, physically, and spiritually

One of the goals of rest is to connect with yourself. That's why many experts advise taking a break and getting out of the way. That way you can get a closer look at your difficulties, worries, and strengths. Taking care of yourself, no matter how simple the activity, can unite the mental, physical, and spiritual aspects.

5. Be grateful

Researchers report in the Journal of Happiness, that appreciating the positive aspects of life leads to reduced psychopathology, better interpersonal relationships, and improved physical health. Gratitude is one way to appreciate the positive aspects. As a result, you'll appreciate the effort more, connect with others more, and feel more relaxed.

The five ways above you can do to stay in control even though many things are out of control.


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