5 Ways To Learn To Get Rid Of Screaming Habits In Children

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JAKARTA - Often the behavior of children who are fussy, tantrums, refuses to listen or argues seems to be justification for parents to yell. "If they don't get yelled at, they won't stop or they won't move right away," the parents said.

Let's think about it together, children are required to always learn to behave well so as not to upset their parents. However, it is not only children who need to learn. Instead, parents also have to learn to control their emotions so they don't run out of yelling at their children. How to?

Realize that a parent's primary job is to manage your own emotions. So, by modeling emotion regulation, you can also help your child learn to manage his emotions. “Kids learn empathy when we empathize with them. They learn to scream at us when we raise our voices at them,” says Laura Markham, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How To Stop Yelling and Start Connecting.

Commit to your child that you will try to use a stable, respectful voice. Let them know that you are learning and may make mistakes, but that you are trying to get better.

Remember that children are not adults. They haven't been able to think like you. Their frontal cortex brain is not fully developed before the age of 25 years. So, their emotions still often overwhelm them and make them unable to think clearly.

Stop accumulating negative emotions that can make you explode at any moment. A fussy child may only be one of the causes of your irritation. So, so as not to let go of 'spitting up' the emotions that have accumulated in front of them, then immediately rest yourself as soon as negative emotions are felt.

Empathize with your child when they express their emotions—whatever they are—even when they have a tantrum or cry. This will allow them to learn to accept their own feelings, which is the first step in learning to manage them. "Once children can manage their emotions, they can manage their behavior," says Laura. This will keep them from getting into trouble.