6 Ways To Overcome Couple Narsistic Behavior In Romance

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JAKARTA - It is important to understand that eccentric personality is a mental health disorder condition and it is not the person's choice to behave like that. Most people with these disorders are not fully aware of what this behavior does or the consequences for others.

If you have a charismatic partner, it is very possible to tell him about the attitude that disturbs you. However, it is necessary to realize that you cannot change your partner. Because this can lead to anger and revenge.

If it is like this, it is you who must have the skills of mining that can protect against pain. What are these skills? Here's the explanation.

One of the best ways to protect yourself from emotional stress because you are in a relationship with a charismatic partner is to understand the disturbance. Studying all things related to the NPD can help you develop empathy for your partner. But also protect yourself from believing whatever he does.

Understanding the NPD can help you get rid of insults, criticisms, and other painful actions. Admitting that this is not about you but about your own mental health condition is a powerful tool in managing relationships with someone with an eccentric personality.

Because people with NPD do not realize how their behavior affects others, it is important for you to convey your feelings. Silence in order to maintain the peace of the relationship will only harm yourself.

People with NPD are sensitive to criticism, even the small ones. So, you need to practice defensive attitude when talking to your partner.

"Protecting yourself from the actions of eccentric couples can be in the form of not letting your partner demean, underestimate, or trampled on your thoughts and feelings," explained Ettensohn, author of Unmasking Narcissism, A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life, as reported by Psychcentral, Friday, August 18.

People with NPD sometimes feel entitled to their partner's life. In his eyes, the main goal is for a partner to serve their needs. So, setting boundaries is very useful in managing healthy relationships.

When dealing with any individual who behaves seriously, it is better to set clear limits using simple communication and leave the relationship if other people don't respect the boundaries you set, "said Ettensohn.

Naturally, there are people who are born with more sensitive feelings so that the NPD couple's painful actions can affect the mood. So, it is very important to internalize the fact that his actions are not a reflection of yourself. It is a manifestation of his own personality disorder.

For sensitive people, accepting criticism and insults personally will quickly reduce self-confidence and self-esteem. Being indifferent helps you maintain a healthy mood and realistic expectations of relationships.

Despite acting stupid, never ignore unacceptable behavior. Despite having mental health conditions, he has no right to constantly persecute or demean you as a partner.

In some cases, you may not receive the support and attention of the NPD couple. Growing new friendships and maintaining existing bonds can help you gain emotional satisfaction outside of relationships with your partner.

Meski jika pasangan NPD melarang Anda keluar atau mengendalikan gerakan Anda di luar, sampaikan kepadanya kalau Anda juga membutuhkan perhatian dan dukungan dari orang lain. Jika Anda tidak mendapat apa yang Anda perlu dari hubungan itu, Anda layak mencari di tempat lain.

Leaving relationships with people suffering from NPD can be very difficult. He has difficulty releasing someone when it's comfortable. The tricks you do usually make you doubt leaving him or make you feel guilty about leaving the relationship.

If you are at this moment, remember the reason why you chose to leave. If necessary, make answers from various possible reactions from your partner if you know you will leave him. After that, decide all communications with your partner so he will not act cruelly to you.