When Your Partner Criticizes Your Sexual Performance, Do These 6 Things To Minimize Disappointment

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JAKARTA - Having sex should be based on the goal of mutual pleasure. But if your partner focuses more on criticizing you in bed than enjoying moments or letting you have fun. Or if they prefer to provide negative feedback instead of praising you, then there will be problems as soon as possible that need to be addressed.

In this case, they overestimate their partner's shortcomings in an embarrassing and judgeing way. The habit of criticizing your partner's sexual performance can worsen relationships quickly and have a negative impact on the mental well-being of people who have been criticized.

Then, what can you do if your partner is very critical about your performance in bed? Launch Psychology Today, Tuesday, May 30, here's how to overcome sexual criticism in order to maintain your mental and self-esteem.

Behavior or habit of neglect can worsen a situation. It's only natural that you feel sad and disappointed when criticized by your partner. However, try not to get offended and try to identify the cause why your partner always criticizes.

Does your partner really fight roughly? Does the criticism given have anything to do with your partner's past? Know your partner's nature and attitude well. because criticism can be a tool for someone to commit violence.

Is this behavior caused by past guilt, shame, or sexual trauma? Talk to your partner. Try to listen to your partner's explanation properly and carefully. Sometimes empathy is needed to solve problems.

Maybe they don't recognize the impact of the behavior they have on you. They may also not intend to do anything that offends you. They may feel like they submitted a complaint or gave advice, when it was actually criticism. Ask the pair what the criticism means so that you don't misunderstand. In addition, explain how you feel. Don't stay silent and let the negative affect you.

Sometimes, staying away for a certain period of time is needed to defuse the situation. After some time, a calmer environment may be available for productive discussions on the matter.

If you feel your partner is constantly damaging to your mentality and there seems to be no progress in solving the problem. So realize that that person may not be the right person for you. You are responsible for your own happiness and sexual pleasure so look for a partner who really suits your tastes.