Experiencing Rejection? Here's How To Deal With It So It Doesn't Hurt

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JAKARTA - Rejection, both in love and work, is painful. In fact, a study found that when a person experiences rejection, they will feel jealous, lonely, and anxious. In addition, people who are rejected will usually question their own abilities. There are also those who feel that they are not valuable and not desirable.

However, you should not drag on in sadness too much. Because, it's the same as you torture yourself. After facing rejection, don't doubt yourself or your ability. Remind yourself that one rejection doesn't reduce your self-esteem. Here are some ways to deal with rejection, launch Psychology Today, Wednesday, May 24.

Research shows that writing about your feelings and potential implications after experiencing rejection could be an effective way to process those feelings faster and get through them.

Accepting rejection (versus evaluating or describing it) can help reduce negative emotional responses more quickly. Acceptance does not mean despair or tolerating unhealthy situations. Acceptance means recognizing and accepting yourself, your thoughts, and emotions. Then when you can accept it, you can take action if necessary.

Although rejection hurts, some evidence suggests it can make positive emotions more accessible. That is, you can try to increase positive emotions when rejected by doing activities you like, which are also beneficial for yourself. You can put in positive energy to be able to manage feelings of sadness because they are rejected.

You need to know that experiencing a refusal does not determine who you really are. When you are refused to work, it doesn't mean you are incompetent but there could be values on you that the company doesn't need. Look at your situation from an outsider's point of view can help get rid of negative emotions more quickly.