To Hear, Here Are 5 Ways To Communicate Aseratively

Illustration of assertive communication methods (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Says firmly not only expressing the truth. But it is also based on knowing what you feel, want, and need. In addition to being communicated carefully, assertively communicating does not make it difficult for recipients to accept but instead listen carefully.

Asertive communication is also explained as a way of expressing your feelings and needs properly and respectfully. According to Jonice Webb, Ph.D., licensed psychologist and author of the book reported by Psychology Today, Thursday, May 11, by communicating assertively makes you more heard.

For most people, assertive communication is not easy to do. One of the most needed in communication to be heard is to hone skills. Namely skilled at expressing decisively, easily understood, and expressing it in a healthy way. To do so, Webb provides tips that you can practice to hone assertive communication skills.

Knowing how you feel before and in a certain situation, it is useful to be assertive. That way, you can identify how you feel, whether it's happiness, anger, disappointment, or anxiety.

Your own feelings need to underlie an assertive attitude. That way, you can find the right words to communicate with those closest to you. Then that way, your loved ones listen instead of ignoring the feelings expressed respectfully.

When you are hurt and angry or may feel other emotions, it is important to manage these feelings so that they can be expressed in appropriate words. Managing feelings involves internal identification and validation of feelings. Then it can be externally expressed in a precise language. As advice from Webb, take a few minutes to relax with a deep breath and drink a glass of water.

In addition to understanding yourself's feelings, it's also important to understand the feelings of the people involved. For example, when you hear music playing loud in your sleep. You need to understand that people who play the music, may not mean badly. It's just that they need to recognize their boundaries that annoy you. So express your needs with respect so they respond to you with respect too.

In this fifth way, you need to think about how to communicate your messages. Is it directly expressed, by sending messages, or in other ways. You also need to take into account the background of the situation you are experiencing.

That's an assertive way of communicating that needs to be honed. Train skills to say your needs with great assertiveness. If you are trained continuously, you will find more convenience in communicating, raising awareness, and growing self-confidence.