9 Signs Your Partner Has Emotional Maturity

Illustration of a couple having emotional maturity (Pexels/Andrea Piacquadio)

JAKARTA – Many people think that love is enough capital to get married. By relying on the heart, the couple dared to decide the biggest thing in their life. But when expecting a long-term relationship to remain harmonious, healthy, and happy, every couple needs to have emotional maturity.

According to Rob Pascale, Ph.D., and Lou Primavera, Ph.D. who is the author of Making Marriage Work, some aspects of maturity are related to age. Including emotional maturity that requires a lot of experience and retrospect to hone it.

These two authors share the characteristics or signs of a person's emotional maturity. Do you or your partner have the following 9 signs?

1. Able to control impulses

Those who can control their impulses know how to put the brakes on emotional outbursts and don't get angry quickly. Impulse control is also possessed when choosing words carefully so that they do not hurt other people's feelings and will be more effective in dealing with conflicts.

2. Know their own needs

In building trust each partner communicates honestly with each other and more clearly expresses their own needs. This means they know what is needed, who is in a relationship, what needs to be done, and who they are.

3. Have empathy

Empathy in a long-term relationship is needed. Those with empathy make their partners feel emotionally supported, understood, and valued.

4. Admit mistakes

A partner who dares to admit mistakes and doesn't try to blame his partner is less likely to lie. Sometimes, lying is done to avoid problems, but emotionally mature couples will tend to learn from and dare to admit their mistakes.

5. Have an effective communication style

During a conflict, every couple needs an effective way of communicating without judging, yelling, or saying harsh words. Effective communication tends to focus on the problem at hand and treat it as something that is shared.

6. Committed

An emotionally mature partner will commit to you and the relationship. Unwavering commitment and loyalty to one's relationship and partner is the cornerstone of a long-term relationship.

Well, committed couples according to Pascale and Primavera reported by Psychology Today, Monday, November 1, see relationships as the most important things in their lives and decide to marry not because they need or fulfill a sense of responsibility but because they want it.

7. Emotionally supportive

In a healthy marriage, our partner is the right person. When we support each other emotionally, it means that our partner's problems are our problems and make the relationship more connected to each other.

8. Trustworthy

In any relationship, trust is one of the keys to making life feel safe because we believe our partner is loyal and supportive in good and bad. It also allows us to express our thoughts and feelings openly without worrying about being judged, ridiculed, or rejected.

9. Have a secure relationship style

Whether it's a relationship with a colleague or a relationship with you, an emotionally mature partner can balance the rules. He can build on the past, set the rules for future relationships, and has no difficulty building personal bonds and staying close to others.