It Needs To Be Done In Marriage, Here Are 7 Practical Tips To Build Open Communication With Your Partner

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JAKARTA - Building open communication with your partner in marriage is the foundation of a lasting and harmonious relationship. Here are some practical tips to help you and your partner connect and understand each other better, quoted from the Marriage page, Wednesday, July 16.

Good public speakers know that the key to making audiences really listen is to speak gently. This requires the audience to open their ears and keep their attention. You can do the same with your partner.

Be gentle in the way you talk to him. This will not only show warmth and kindness, but also allow him to open his ears to hear what you are saying.

Doing this will definitely help it be more open to you. Use a communication style that shows a sense of security. In addition to soft noises, encouraging words can help your partner communicate effectively with you.

"Whatever you do, tell me," or I promise I will tell you without interruption." This will pave the way for couples to be more open without fear of being criticized.

When there is a natural pause in the conversation, repeating some things in a different way that your partner just told will show that you are involved, present, and really listen to them. For example:

"It looks like you're stressed with your current work. What you say about your clothes will also annoy me. What can I do to make you feel better now?"

Using a language like this shows that you already understand your partner's problems and are ready to support them.

Sometimes, you need to reflect on what to say before saying it. This is the right way to prevent you from saying things that are not meant. Open communication in marriage is not just exchanging words. Give also space to exchange opinions.

Even if you just say "hmmm....try to think first" while thinking, it shows your partner that you are present. And it just takes time to reflect on what was just said.

Open communication cannot be done at any time, but you can choose the best and most appropriate time for communication to take place in optimal conditions. Pay careful attention to mood and other factors if you want to create conditions that allow you to communicate effectively with your partner.

But if there are urgent matters that need to be discussed immediately, then do it as quickly as possible. Honest communication is very important in preventing feelings of revenge in marriage. Make sure you choose the right time to start a discussion in order to get the desired results from communication disclosure.

Validation is decisive in any relationship. As much as possible, make your partner feel heard, understood, and supported, whatever the feelings. Instead of immediately finding a solution, try to admit your partner's emotions first. When you and he both feel heard, communication will flow more smoothly and you create a safe space in discussing difficult issues without fear of being judged.

Life can indeed be busy, but without consistent communication, communication can be hampered. Spending special time talking with your partner can make a big difference. Whether it's a weekly date or a quiet moment before bed, these times allow you to connect deeper with him. This is done not only to find a way out of trouble, but also to foster emotional intimacy and mutual understanding.