Friends Secretly Jealous Of Your Success, Recognize The 5 Signs

Illustration of the sign of friends secretly jealous of your success (Freepik/drobotdean)

YOGYAKARTA Jealousy can be experienced in friendship, not only in a couple relationship. The difference is, jealousy in friendship is most common because you want something that other people have. For example, friends have progress related to success in life.

The therapist Afton Turner, LPCA. reported by VerywellMind, said that jealousy may indicate the underlying feeling of incapacity. That means jealousy is more about them than about you. Unfortunately, it is you who have to deal with it. So recognize the following, a sign that friends are secretly jealous of your success:

Jealousy tends to make no sense, because other people or friends you feel jealous when we get something you want. Turner says that when you experience something positive, jealous friends may no longer care about you. They start to take a distance when you experience the positive events they want.

The jealous behavior also encourages a person to treat people he is jealous of differently. For example, by not inviting you to have lunch together. Or exclude you in social events and even WhatsApp groups.

Communication patterns with jealous friends, can be uncertain. They may not care when you are fine but they find it difficult to feel happy for you. They also want to be near you when you have a difficult time, explains psychologist Patrice Le Goy, Ph.D., MBA., LMFT.

Turner added that this erratic communication can be realized as a fabrication, subtle satire, excessive comparison, ignore or underestimate other people's feelings or experiences, and try to make them feel guilty.

In addition to erratic communication, those who are jealous of the success you achieve, they will behave a little bit too much. Starting from pride, looking for other people's mistakes, and preventing you from being near them. They also don't want to focus on positive things. Only negative things are highlighted, such as difficulties and challenges he faces.

A little different from excluding you in a shared social circle. Isolating tends not to give you the opportunity to share happy and positive stories about how you achieve. Jealous friends dominate the talks more and focus on negative things, for example, which makes them not get what they want.

Are there friends who are jealous of your success as marked by the above behavior? In order not to be reactive and remain wise in responding, advises Le Goy, make sure that your friendship is more important and worthy of maintaining. Avoid emotional escalation, respond calmly, and show that you consider friendship not a competition. However, if it is too disturbing and toxic, be prepared to let go of yourself by stress, stress, or feeling guilty for things that are not your fault.