What Should Parents Not Do When Children Are Tantrum?

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JAKARTA - As parents, of course you must know what to do when dealing with your child tantrums according to your habits. But sometimes even when your condition is not possible to be calm, no doubt it is difficult to hold back from giving an unfavorable response. So that in the end it actually worsens the situation.

Try taking a moment consider why it's so important to avoid negative responses when your child goes berserk. This can help strengthen your determination not to respond to tantrums reflexively.

Launching information from the Child's Mind Institute, Friday, November 22, when parents describe their children's tantrums, they often talk in no way believe. "Why do you have to panic about small things?!" Parents continue to use the word, "smallest," and many of the words and phrases of the synonym are "not important," and "small" to describe things that trigger children's tantrums.

If you look at the parents' glasses, the reason the child's tantrums can be unreasonable. But from the child's point of view, the reason for tantrums can be meaningful. For that, when you are accompanying your little one who is in a tantrum, it is important for you not to laugh. And you should take their reactions and feelings seriously.

This is a good general rule to apply to children at all ages, particularly relevant at the time of tantrums. Never underestimate your child's emotions and experience by instructing them to be 'not angry' or 'don't cry'.

If children are told enough not to feel what they are feeling. Then they will believe that they have the ability to activate and disable emotions in an instant. Or rather they should be able to do so.

Children need to learn that their feelings are part of life and even feelings are difficult. And that those feelings come and go, like waves in the ocean that must be passed.

Persuding children with the lure of gifts or promises will only delay solving problems and not help children learn to control their emotions. Giving children what they want when tantrums will only strengthen tantrum behavior and make it happen again in the future.

The next thing parents shouldn't do when their child tantrums is not say the behavior your child does makes you sad. Remember, tantrums of children should not make parents sad and disappointed. This is because children are not responsible for the emotions felt by parents.

Often parents lie or tell half the truth to avoid their children feeling disappointed or sad. But this is not a solution. It can help in the short term. However, the long-term impact will be bad. If you want your child to be honest, you have to be honest with him too.

Because sooner or later children will realize their parents' lies. And children need to see parents are responsible for setting boundaries in an open and clear way.