When Sexual Desires Experiencing Change, Here's Expert Advice

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YOGYAKARTA As you get older, in a couple's life you will experience changes, especially in the sexual aspect. Sexual desire will be different in every age change. Men may feel sexual desire decreases and erectile dysfunction. Meanwhile, women after menopause also experience low libido and vaginal dryness.

Although physical changes affect sexual life in pairs, men and women may feel embarrassed when experiencing it. However, according to director of the Sexual Health program, doctor Sharon Bober, reported by Harvard, Monday, August 26, sexuality evolves like many other aspects of life. But couples still have to work together to satisfy each other or meet their needs.

The first suggestion from doctor Bober, share your feelings with your partner. Talk about how change makes you feel like you want to connect with each other. Your partner may be giving some new ideas or thoughts about what they find fun about.

Of course, talking about intimate matters is not always easy. But invite your partner to have a dialogue if you experience differences in desire related to the age increase or physical changes experienced. Start a conversation with a positive conversation.

The wisest and not trying to intimidate or judge, start from a positive point of view about the relationship between the two. Bober's advice, it will be easier to start with constructive conversations. Because in this way, your partner feels supported rather than criticized. Express what you enjoy about sexual intercourse. Express also what you both want in the future.

Your partner explains what feels good during and before sex. This includes what he might need to increase his passion and what he wants to try. Also discuss what you want so that you can find an agreement together.

After discussion, you and your partner can explore various ways to live sex life together. Some advice from doctor Bober, try outercourse, which is directed to manual stimulation. Such as massaging, hugging, stroking, kissing, or just bare hugs in bed.

"The emphasis is on intimacy and physical closeness without sexual intercourse as the main goal or measure of a satisfying meeting," said Bober.

Before and during sex, ask your partner what feels good and what triggers desire. Then share what you like too. Because according to doctor Bober, talking about what each of them is considered interesting can arouse passion.

Apart from talking openly, don't forget to keep exploring new things. Try a fun way to create a sexy or romantic atmosphere. It's also important to find the best time because sexual desire is also related to a person's energy level. According to Doctor Bober, some people are more excited about intimacy in the morning. While there are also those who have more energy at night for the two of them who are sexy. In principle, couples need to communicate with each other to compromise with changing sexual desires.