Alert, These Are 6 Examples Of Codependence Behavior In Love Relations

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JAKARTA - A healthy relationship is about building a balance between caring for others and yourself.

When there is an imbalance, a code of descent can arise because individuals prioritize the needs of others and ignore their own welfare. Dependence on others to get identity and acceptance can lead to poor boundaries.

Here are six examples of coding in love relationships and how to overcome them, reported from the Psych Central page, Tuesday, March 26.

Fear of being rejected

A person with a code of intent is very afraid of rejection, which causes him to constantly seek approval for self-validation. This fear is manifested in someone else's pleasant attitude or reluctant to show true feelings.

For example, you may say yes to other people when you actually don't agree. You tend to sacrifice yourself for the sake of others. This fear-driven habit hinders relationships and self-growth. And create excessive dependence on others.

Can't be alone

Individuals with codependence often experience difficulties when alone because deep fear will be abandoned and depend on others to gain a sense of identity and self-esteem. This can cause you to constantly look for friends or activities to avoid loneliness, for fear of a feeling of vacuum.

Avoid conflict

Individuals with coding often avoid conflict to maintain harmony and avoid potential rejection. For example, you may avoid letting your partner or family members know that you are not happy with their actions, for fear it could cause problems. Trying to keep the situation in order to always be fine could mean holding back feelings and in the future could potentially fail to address important issues.

Difficulty setting boundaries

Individuals with codependence find it difficult to establish and maintain healthy boundaries with others, causing feelings of being overwhelmed or exploited.

For example, you may find it difficult to refuse the responsibilities of additional jobs, even when you are burdened, for fear of disappointing others. Difficulties in setting boundaries can result in excessive self-sacrement and disruption of personal well-being.

Control problems

Individuals with codependence often have difficulties with uncertain control problems, try to secretly manage other people or situations to reduce their own anxiety.

For example, you may find yourself constantly checking your partner's cell phone or dictating with whom they can spend time. This strong need for control can stem from the fear that losing control can endanger the stability of your relationship.

Loss of personal identity

People who experience codependence often lack strong self-confidence, and often define themselves through relationships.

A small study reinforces this, revealing that individuals with codependence have difficulty defining themselves, behaving like 'colons' and feeling less stable. These characteristics contribute to imbalances in various areas of life.

This is especially seen in the relationship where it adapts excessively so that it is in accordance with the opinions and behavior of others can result in the loss of identity.