10 Life Experiences That Cause Self-Esteem To Be Low

Illustration of experience that causes low self-esteem (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Self-esteem is related to the belief in self-worthiness as a human being which is a valuable psychological source and is generally a very positive factor in life. Whether closely related to achievement, good relationships, and life satisfaction. Lack of self-esteem or self-esteem can cause people to be depressed, do not recognize their potential, and tolerate toxic relationships.

A person who loves himself too much also fails to recognize his rights and is unable to even accept failures. For people who have low self-esteem, according to a clinical psychologist based at NYC, wary Lachmann, Psy.D., due to the past experience below.

An authoritarian family that regulates all the achievements of their children, does not produce a successful young generation. On the other hand, criticizing and not appreciating the achievements of their children makes it difficult for their children to believe and be comfortable with themselves. This also causes a person to have low self-esteem.

Parents who are not fully involved in child development can cause their children to be less self-esteem. Caretakers or parents who do not pay attention make it difficult for their children to motivate themselves.

If parents or caregivers often fight, it makes their children feel bad. According to Lachmann as reported by Psychology Today, Wednesday, December 6, children absorb negative emotions and distrust situations they have imitated. This is scary, burdensome, and unorganized. Childhood or youth experiences in which parents act unexpectedly, also affect a person as an adult. Conflicts in an intense, very threatening, and fear-causing family are the cause of low self-esteem.

If you get relatively safe family support, conscious, and responsive, you have a greater chance of recovering and having greater self-esteem than people who were ridiculed and intimidated as they were young. Unsecured support, abandoned, desperate, and filled with hatred for themselves significantly erodes the quality of life.

Parents who are too supportive to feel limited, make a person not ready to face the world independently. In relation to self-esteem, someone raised by parents who is too protective, is not ready to face failure, pain, and responsibility.

Growing up in a safe environment and parents who make their children feel comfortable during growth, the effect is great on the formation of self-esteem. If relationships with parents and caregivers are unsafe, it is difficult to get attention and get space to learn comfortably.

Families are the best supporters for the growth of their children. Included in the academic aspect, parents are important to provide sufficient support. If someone experiences academic difficulties and doesn't get safe accommodation in the past, it might develop a sense of inferiority. Even to express their opinion, they are not confident enough or don't have enough self-esteem.

Trauma or past wounds, need to be healed. Including physical, sexual, or emotional harassment, may lead to a low self-esteem.

When a system of belief, religion or others puts you in a position as if you feel constantly committing sins, this can be a life experience that affects self-esteem. Structured belief systems have two paths, a path that is all good and all bad. In the end, it makes a person feel confused, wrong, biased, embarrassed, and disappointed with themselves over and over again.

Many people and the media highlight a person's beauty or abilities unrealistically. Even the ability or inability is expressed out loud regardless that no human being is perfect. Access to information that is unfair from an early age, forming a person thinks that he is too low and does not even recognize his potential because it only refers to what is common.

Those are the ten experiences or outside aspects that cause low self-esteem. So Lachmann's advice, it's important to keep finding ways to feel fine and as secure as possible in life. In addition, it's also important to understand yourself to start the repair process.