Anger Can be Vented in a Healthy Manner, Psychologist Messages: Differentiate It From Aggression

Illustration of a healthy way of venting anger (Freepik/Connyo_studio)

YOGYAKARTA - Anger is an emotional condition that is often avoided or managed so that it doesn't threaten or frighten other people. Even anger is a 'forbidden' emotion that may have been felt since childhood.

As a psychologist who meets with clients for therapy, Gabriel Young, Ph.D. says many people give up and withdraw in the face of emotional challenges in life. They don't like to get angry because it can shock the people around them. This submission is also often done to maintain their professional function and success. However, professional success and processing emotions are completely separate from the brain.

Besides that, there are also people who choose to keep their anger to avoid conflict. So, to maintain peace, they ignore the toxic behavior of those around them or even respond to toxic treatment with an attitude of victimization or as a 'victim'. In that context, sadness and anger become maladaptive traits. But on the other hand, allowing yourself to feel and express emotions is actually a sign of strength and personal growth. So, what is a healthy way to vent anger?

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One would naturally take bold action when threatened. He will probably run fast to escape the threat. There are also those who fight back when cornered. Regardless of how one responds to threats, all are potentially helpful from harm. However, it is necessary to avoid the unfortunate maladaptive attitude and helplessness.

Young's message, anger and aggression are not the same. Aggression toward others includes acts of violence, emotional degradation, and role abuse. Aggression may often spark from anger. So, if anger persists, then a basic understanding is needed about venting it without aggression that harms others and oneself.

Anger can be manifested in healthy, even cathartic ways, reported by Psychology Today, Wednesday, February 8. While it's not acceptable for you to snap at people, it may be very beneficial to let out a frustrated scream every now and then when it's safe and appropriate to do so.

Illustration of a healthy way to vent anger (Freepik/Wayhomestudio)

Research also shows that shouting out swear words in particular can help reduce physical pain. Although there is also evidence that hitting the punching bag can only increase anger rather than release it. That is, as long as the anger does not harm oneself or others, there is no problem with venting it.

Young's concluding message, the underlying emotion of anger usually needs to be accessed and processed. That way, one doesn't deny anger, but becomes aware of triggers, self-processes, and vents in a healthy way.