Mother's Father, When Children Are Angry He Controls Emotions In This WAY

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JAKARTA - Children often face problems with emotional control. Although anger is a normal emotion and must be expressed, there are several expressions of anger that can make a child become rude and aggressive.

Feeling emotional is not an easy thing even for adults. But that doesn't mean it can't be handled. Children need to know how to channel their anger in a healthy and safe way.

Here are some ways parents can help their children manage their anger in a better way, according to Very Well Family, Wednesday, January 11.

Teach children to label feelings so they can express feelings of anger, frustration, and disappointment. Try to say, "Feeling angry is okay, but shouldn't hit." Help them know that complete control is with themselves when they are angry.

Sometimes, aggressive behavior stems from various uncomfortable feelings, such as sadness or shame. So, help your children find out why they feel angry. Maybe they feel sad because they don't play with friends. Instead of showing sadness, children respond angryly because it is easier or covers up the hurt they feel.

The best way to teach children to deal with anger is to show them how you deal with emotions when you feel angry. When children see you lose your patience, they will most likely do the same. However, if they see you dealing with your feelings in a friendly and gentler way, they will also follow suit.

While it's important not to show parental problems in children, it's a healthy way to show them how you handle feelings of anger. Show yourself when you're annoyed that your child understands that sometimes adults can also get angry.

Most families have rules about what behavior is acceptable and what is not related to anger. Some families have no objection if the door is slammed and the sound is raised when angry, while other families have less tolerance for such behavior. Make a written household rule that outlines your hopes when a family member is angry.

Avoid physical aggression, name calls, and destruction of goods so that children understand that they cannot throw away goods, break goods, or attack verbally or physically when they are angry.

Children need to know the right way to deal with their anger. Instead of being told, "Don't hit your face," explain what they can do when they feel angry. Say, "Next time, pay attention to your words" or "Keep him away when you're angry."

You can also ask, "What can you do other than hit?" to help your child identify strategies that might help.

Use a time-out as a way to help your child calm down. Consisting from a situation and taking a few minutes to calm down can really help children who are easily angry.

Give your child positive consequences when they follow the rules of anger and negative consequences when they break the rules. Positive consequences, such as giving gifts can motivate children to use their anger management skills when they are upset.

Follow up with immediate consequences if the child becomes aggressive when angry. Effective consequences can include time-outs, loss of rewards, or paying compensation by doing additional tasks or lending objects to people who were scolded earlier.