In Romantic Relationships, Here Are The Reasons Why Every Couple Needs Emotional Adjustments

Illustration of reasons why emotional adjustment is important in romantic relationships (Unsplash/Andrik Langfield)

YOGYAKARTA – Emotional adjustment is understanding the emotions that underlie the attitude of the other party in your relationship. This understanding is actually a must-have in every relationship, whether family relationships, friendship relationships, to romantic relationships. The reason emotional adjustment is important is because what they do and say doesn't always accurately reflect their emotions.

Dr. Gleb Tsipursky, cognitive neuroscientist and author, points out that a person might have a bad day at work and spill coffee on their most comfortable clothes. Then when you go home, maybe you don't greet your partner as cheerfully as usual. Even said rude and not warm. Yet you know that a bad day is not their fault.

If your partner doesn't mind your unsettled behavior, they may understand the emotions underlying your behavior. It shows that you and your partner are in tune emotionally. Emotional adjustment is a strong foundation of relationships.

Illustration of reasons why emotional adjustment is important in romantic relationships (Unsplash/Svyatoslav Ramanov)

To build emotional adjustment, it is very important to implement a set of behavioral strategies that will help you understand the other person better such as the following.

Be careful with thoughts

Thoughts are related to many aspects, including feelings. Tsipursky advises, it is better to face the truth head-on and deal with it than to let it sabotage the relationship in the long run. Because haunting problems or unresolved issues can hurt your and your partner's lasting relationship.

Keep in mind that every human being is unique

No matter how much they have in common, even the best friends, greatest lovers, and most trusted partners will have some things that don't match. This isn't a bad thing, but realizing that everyone has a unique personality can help foster emotional adjustment. Because, after all, it is still necessary to respect and continue efforts to maintain relationships.

Don't hinder communication

Good communication is communicating openly and honestly. Anything that gets in the way of being open to each other is considered a barrier to communication. Being open means making sure that you have a clear idea of what you and your partner expect. This includes small things like preferences, lifestyle choices, to bigger things like career goals, marriage, and having children. The reason why you should know this, is to measure the long-term viability of your relationship.

Must have boundaries, privacy and conflict resolution

These three things, boundaries, privacy, and conflict resolution, are related to each other. When you and your partner trust each other, it means allowing each other to set boundaries and privacy. Also, avoid making assumptions and always be open when faced with doubts because it will make you uncomfortable.