No Need To Spend Energy, Here Are 10 Ways To Control Anger

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JAKARTA - Do you get angry easily when someone cuts your lane while driving on the road? Or does blood pressure skyrocket when the child refuses to cooperate? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion. However, it is important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can damage your health and relationships with those around you.

Ready to control your anger? Start by considering these 10 anger management tips.

Think before you speak

When anger is at its peak, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Adapts Mayo Clinic, Thursday, March 24, take a few moments to clear your head before saying anything and let others involved in the situation do the same.

Express anger after feeling calm

Once your mind is clear, express your anger in a firm but not confrontational way. State your concerns and disappointments clearly and directly, without hurting the other person or trying to control them.

Exercising

Physical activity can help reduce stress that causes anger. If you find yourself easily irritated, take a brisk walk or run. You can also spend time doing other fun physical activities.

Take time for yourself

Give yourself a break when faced with stressful moments. Calmness can help you feel better prepared to face what lies ahead without feeling upset or angry.

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Identify the right solution

Instead of focusing on the triggers of the anger, work on solving the problem at hand. Are you stressed about seeing a messy child's room? Try to close the door. Is the couple late for dinner every night? Schedule meal times in the evening or agree to self-feed several times a week. Remind yourself that getting angry won't fix anything and may only make things worse.

Stick with the 'I' statement

Criticizing and blaming can only increase tension. To avoid this, use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm annoyed that you often leave the table without offering to help with the dishes" instead of "you never do your homework."

Don't hold a grudge

Forgiveness is a powerful weapon. If you continue to allow anger and other negative feelings to suppress positive feelings, you may be swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who made you angry, you can learn from the situation to strengthen the relationship.

Use humor to release tension

Joking can relieve tension. Use humor to help you deal with what makes you angry or when things don't go your way. However, avoid sarcasm as it can hurt other people's feelings and make things worse.

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Relaxation exercises

When emotions are burning, try to train yourself to relax for a moment. Practice deep breathing exercises, imagine a calming scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as "Take it easy." You can also listen to music, keep a journal, do some yoga poses or whatever it takes to create a more relaxed mood.

Know when to seek help

Learning to control anger is sometimes a challenge for everyone. Seek help if you find it difficult to control your anger or it is causing you to do things that hurt those around you.