5 Reasons Happy Couples Communicate 'Differently'

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JAKARTA – Two people who are in a relationship in pairs, of course, cannot be separated from communication. Many experts say that communication is the key to building healthy relationships. But generally, healthy communication doesn't happen to many couples. Well, happy couples have a 'different' way of communicating.

So what are the reasons why happy couples communicate differently and support self-development and achievement in relationships? Here's what happy couples do.

1. Fighting is healthy

Don't ever imagine that the fight is going to be violent, hitting the argument with harsh, intimidating verbal words. No, happy couples think fighting is healthy. Since everyone has a different perspective, different arguments are useful for finding the best middle ground for both of you.

2. To reframe the problem

Without listening to each other, partners will not understand each other. By listening to each other too, happy couples can reframe problems. Such as reformulating the problem and finding a solution that is good for both parties, also starting from the smallest step, namely listening to each other.

3. To fight negativity

According to marriage therapist, Carin Goldstein, LMFT. As reported by YourTango, Friday, January 27, one of the most common problems in marriage is negative speech. Besides being able to hurt feelings, negative speech can trigger misunderstandings.

Happy couples choose positive language to drown out negative emotions. According to Goldstein, a lot of criticism is not a problem, but the problem is how to convey it. Well, this is proven by happy couples that positive sentences can convey criticism better and don't hurt each other's feelings.

4. To make it easier to adapt

If you and your partner don't know what you need or what you don't like, it can be difficult to build a happy relationship. Therefore, a 'different' way of communicating is needed to make it easier to adapt. What needs to be said, say it in positive language. That way you and your partner know how to position yourself and motivate each other.

5. Effective communication doesn't have to be done all day long

Everyone has their own ideals, this is the reason happy couples just need to communicate effectively. Even though they put their priorities first, they don't keep in touch with each other all the time. When the activity breaks, they just give the news and leave time to be enjoyed alone.

That's the reason why happy couples communicate in 'different' ways. Do you and your partner have a way of communicating as above?