Have A Toxic Partner, Do This So You Are Free From Heartache

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JAKARTA - Nobody wants to have or be in a toxic relationship. Even so, we cannot plan everything perfectly. Sometimes, there are times when we are "stuck" in a toxic relationship without realizing it. If this is the case, you need to know how to deal with a toxic partner to make your life better.

Listen to your heart

If you're already completely uncomfortable with your partner's intrusive, passive or aggressive, even very abusive behavior, it's time to really assess whether or not this relationship is good for you. See if you're sad more than you laugh. Listen to the inner voice carefully because he understands the most.

Dare to make choices

When your partner starts dictating or restricting what you can and can't do, start to dare to make choices. Do you want to continue forward or stop. Remember, this choice will determine your future.

Set limits

Even though he is a partner, it does not mean he is entitled to everything over you. You still have the right to have boundaries and a say in the relationship. You also have the right to make decisions that you feel comfortable with.

Don't get carried away

When your partner is in an emotional storm, try to get yourself into it, aka don't get carried away by emotions. Minimize the distance and give him the space to complete his emotional outburst.

Put your emotional health first

A relationship is filled by two people, where both of them must feel comfortable and safe. Maybe your partner is not physically attacking you, but keeps bombarding you with hurtful words, you have every right to leave. Prioritize your emotional health because it is no less important. You can also express your emotions by sharing it with those closest to you.

Communicate your concerns

If you still want to hold on, you can share the discomfort you feel with your partner. Set strong boundaries and acknowledge that you deserve the power to have a say in this relationship. However, only do this if you feel you can still do it, and without coercion from those around you.

Remember that staying in a toxic relationship without a solution or change is not a good thing. Seek professional help immediately if you feel your relationship is starting to get dangerous. Also remember that you deserve to be treated well and deserve to be happy.