Tamara Tyasmara Blasphemed By Netizens, Even Though Someone's Feelings Can't Be Assuming From Face Expressions

Tamara Tyasmara and her attorney Sandy Arifin when they arrived at Polda Metro Jaya, Thursday (15/2/2024). (Between/Ilham Kausar)

JAKARTA Tamara Tyasmara, Dante's mother who died because her lover drowned, received blasphemy from netizens. She is considered not to show a sad face after losing her son. Even some netizens also accused Tamara of being involved in the murder.

Raden Andante Khalif Pramudityo or Dante (6) died while swimming in the swimming pool Taman Tirta Mas (Palem Indah), Pondok Kelapa, Duren Sawit, East Jakarta, Saturday (27/1/2024). After conducting an autopsy, Polda Metro Jaya named Tamara's lover, Yudha Arfandi, as a suspect. CCTV footage shows YA drowned Dante up to 12 times in an adult pool.

Tamara Tyasmara's name immediately became the spotlight of netizens as the news of Dante's death spread to the public. In the midst of the grief of losing his only son, the woman who was born on January 23, 1995, was actually flooded with blasphemy from netizens. Many comments on X tend to blame the victim's mother.

Gak habis pikir anaknya meninggal belum jelas juga knapa, emaknya Alm. Dante masih bisa dandan blow rambut outfitnya kek lgi lebaran senyam senyum juga🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬 pic.twitter.com/Nr0RggSub4

— Scarlett Witch (@GabriliaMutiara) February 10, 2024

"I don't think his son died yet, it's not clear why," said his late mother. Dante can still dress and blow his hair, Igi Lebaran, smile too "pic.twitter.com/Nr0Rgg Sub4

"Tamara Tyasmara is also involved. From the start she covered up the case," said the account @DeilyUpdate.

Another comment highlights Tamara's expression at the child's recitation of the child's death. Tamar is said to have shown less sadness, as one should show when someone loses a loved one.

Tamara's expression was then compared to the actress and singer Bunga Citra Lestari who looked tangled when her husband, Aschraf Sinclair, left her in February 2020.

Expressions of faces are generally used by humans to convey various types of meaning. The expression of the face is also considered the most universal body language and is often used to convey feelings.

However, although considered to be able to show feelings, it turns out that facial expressions cannot always reflect a person's heart. A study conducted by Aleix Martinez, a professor of The Ohio State University, muscle movements in the face do not always describe emotions or feelings.

That is, someone who smiles is not always feeling happy and vice versa, not everyone is happy to smile. A smile according to Martinez has a lot of meaning, including to calm the situation, nervousness, or to cover up facts. Smiles can also be considered that the person is friendly and polite.

The suspect YA bowed when the police escorted him to a press conference at the Directorate of General Criminal Investigation of the Metro Jaya Police, South Jakarta, Monday (12/2/2024). (Between/Lifia Mawaddah Putri/aa)

Martinez explained, this happens because everyone has different traits and affects the expressions he shows.

Some are expressive and there are also people who are less expressive. In addition, there are also people who are extrovert and introvert, who respond to a condition with different facial expressions.

Therefore, Martinez said not to immediately assume a person's feelings only from facial expressions because facial expressions do not always reflect the true heart content.

On the other hand, female activist who is also active in the Women's Participation Institute, Adriana Venny, said that in a society that still has a gender stereotype, women are the ones who are disadvantaged.

An example is when a divorce occurs, women tend to be blamed more often. In addition, when there are children with problems, also women are blamed.

"Similarly, with the status of a widow, women are more vulnerable to being stabbed. Even though the facts can be different. Just logic, where is there a mother who is not sad to be left behind by her child?" said Adriana.

"So such an assessment is very cruel. Indonesian netizens are expected to support women victims, not make the problem even more blunder," he added.

For this reason, Adriana urged that a negative perspective on women should be changed, because this can affect mental health.

Meanwhile, forensic psychologist Reza Indragiri Amriel suspects that in general there are two possible motive for murder, namely emotional and instrumental. He also said that the suspect's feelings towards the victim could help the suspect's motives. If the suspect's feelings are positive, it is suspected that his actions were not motivated by emotional motives.

"If it's not emotional, then it's probably an instrumental motive," Reza told VOI.

"When we talk about emotional motives, it is related to anger, hurt, revenge, jealousy, or negative feelings," Reza added.

Reza continued, if an instrumental motive is motivated, it is not related to mood. So there is a possibility that the perpetrator will want to get certain incentives from these crimes, either popularity or property.

"This distribution can be strengthened by exploring the income, work, lifestyle, and needs of the suspect," he said.